Friday, November 28, 2014

Reflections on Thanksgiving

Well that was great! I woke up feeling so content this morning. I got to sleep in for the first time in ages and am still in my fuzzy robe with a cup of hot, black decaf coffee. It's going to be a wonderful day!

Yesterday was so nice. As always, I did all the cooking and made the traditional dishes: roasted (fresh, free range) turkey, gravy, sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, stuffing, green bean casserole, rolls, gravy, corn, cranberry sauce, Snicker salad, and two kinds of pies. We ate and had sparkling cider and then had fun together visiting. My son brought over his new video game system and we all played together (I am so bad at video games!). We also walked the dogs and then watched a movie together. There's nothing I like better than family time! It is even more precious to me as the kids get older and have their own separate lives. I love being together as a family. As my daughter said to me at bedtime last night, "this was the BEST Thanksgiving ever!"

Frankly I am just so glad I wasn't trying to eat from packets or change all the spices or measure everything I was eating and worrying about calories. I don't know why it is, but I tend to get *more worried* about healthy eating during the holidays, even if I haven't been very consistent in the weeks leading up to it. This time I followed my decision I blogged about the other day, and ate normal portions of the things I liked best and small tastes of other things. It was so perfect! So nice not to be stressed about the food, or worried about whether or not I was within some carb range, or feeling guilty later about what I ate. I think Cloe is right about "normalizing" food... at least in cases like this. I still don't agree that I should go have a serving of potato chips whenever I want them (I would be gaining weight AND getting unhealthier so fast!), but it makes sense not to be freaking out about stuff like Thanksgiving, potluck dinners, or meals at friends' houses. I think accepting imperfection helps me feel like I don't need to go overboard if I am not perfect. Not sure if that makes sense to you, but after doing some of the homework Cloe has given me, I am starting to understand that "normalizing", for me, may not look like bowls of ice cream or candy bars. It looks more like an emotional thing... normalizing my feelings surrounding what I eat and how much. It's about not being afraid of eating, and not being insanely controlling of every particle I come in contact with like I had to be on Medifast, South Beach, and AIP. Yes, I still believe AIP is the healthiest and best way for me to eat (with reintroductions). But for me to do it in a mentally healthy way, I have to not see it as a "diet" or a controlling thing. It has to not raise my stress level. I know I am not explaining it very well... I will have to think about it some more and try again later. But I hope you get the gist.

Today I am NOT going out shopping, but I will be going for a walk, cleaning the house, relaxing, reading, and doing some shopping online. I'll be making my delicious turkey soup from the leftover turkey bones and meat, with lots of vegetables added. Oh, and I will be eating the leftover green bean casserole for breakfast! I hope your holidays were as happy as mine!

9 comments:

Lori said...

I am glad that you had a good day and don't feel stressed about what you ate. I think I understand the normalizing issue. You ate small portions yesterday of what would have once been off limits foods. Since the shame has been removed due to the normalizing, you don't have to feel stressed, guilty or bad in any other way because of what you ate.
Lori

Amy said...

It is awesome that you could finally focus on family instead of stressing out about food.
I think the food normalization IS about not being crazy rigid OR crazy loose. It's more about why you want to eat when you're not hungry. Once you figure out that part you won't be driven to eat those chips, etc. because you'll realize there are emotions driving those desires and that you are stronger than they are. I think you are on a good path!

timothy said...

sounds like a lovely day so glad you had a good time!

Lyn said...

Thanks. I feel like my brain is finally coming out of hibernation. I am starting to feel better, and more connected with myself, if that makes sense.

Steelers6 said...

Like!

healthwithhappiness said...

Delurking to say.... I had to Google what a Snicker salad was.
I have not heard of it before in Australia, but it does sound unusual. Do you have it with the main meal or dessert? :)

Sounds like the day was totally under your control - you made the decision before and stuck to it. Well done.

Lyn said...

healthwithhappiness~

We put it out with the main meal. We have pie a couple hours later :)

Maria McNeil said...

That is awesome! You were able to enjoy your family instead of having anxiety about eating too much. That's the spirit of the holiday. As I've gotten older (and wiser i like to believe), I've realized, diets are too stressful and honestly, not going to work in the long run although the billion dollars spent in advertising make you question that theory but because of how many diets i've done, I now believe the truth and the truth sets you free. Good for you!! I bet your family appreciated having you enjoy the moment with them...

julia.angelina said...

The happiness in this post is evident, and the sign of a well-nourished, guilt-free brain and body! Keep it up!