Wednesday, May 22, 2013

What Is Wrong With People?

This is hard for me to write, because I honestly don't feel like writing anything. But I am going to anyway.

Last time I blogged I was starting up my new plan with lots of produce added. I will say that is going very well, I feel more 'normal' and happy eating this way and it is easier than the 5 & 1 plan. I will write more about that later.

For a few days after my last post, I was just busy. Busy with kids, dogs, just life. Then I got a call that my mammogram results were abnormal. It wasn't just small calcifications like the last time I needed follow up, but a new "suspicious" mass. I admit that when I heard this and then went in and got a copy of the radiology report, I was highly upset. You know where my mind went. I did get very emotional about it for a couple of days and did not want to talk about it... not here, not to anyone. In fact I still have not spoken to anyone about it. I have an ultrasound and "probably" a needle biopsy scheduled in less than a week. I coped with this news by reading and researching everything I could about foods and supplements that help ward off cancer and continuing to focus on eating all that produce for good health, biking 15 minutes a day, and drinking more green tea. In the meantime, another family member had some health testing that I am quite concerned about, which will either come back as nothing or could be something very bad. I feel like I have been waiting for the other shoe to drop on that, as well.

When I finally felt like I wanted to come back and blog and maybe share something about this, I came back to write but first went to publish the comments that had been left while I was gone. At that point, I had one or two comments with people wondering where I am and if I am okay. But you know what else I had? I had a slew of comments from people saying they hoped I had died, they hoped I'd killed myself, and cheering that maybe I had eaten myself to death. And what really topped it off were the comments left for my children, saying basically congratulations on your mother's death.

What is wrong with people? Really. Is this what society has become? These people saying these things are not kids... teenagers who don't understand the consequences of their words. These people are adults. I am well aware of who they are, because not all comments are anonymous These bullies and their followers have left me hateful words over the past two years and I have deleted and ignored it without much thought. But this? Really? Saying they hoped I was dead, and leaving hateful comments for my *children* to read if something had happened to me? Seriously. I cannot fathom what would ever, EVER possess another human being to treat another person this way. And what have I ever done to anyone? What am I doing that is so awful that I deserve to be greeted by cheers and hopes of my death when I am facing those fears in my real life? When I have shed tears wondering what those tests will show? When I have been trying to stay positive? Yet coming back here and knowing that if I do have cancer, and if I die, some people will have a celebration and try to cause my children pain. Shame on you, just shame. How can you live with yourselves? I could never, would never treat any human being this way and you need to take a good hard look at yourself and figure out, between you and your god if you have one or your conscience if you have one, why you would rejoice in another's pain.

That is all I am going to say about that.

So I went away again without blogging, but when I came back there were many, many kind words, thoughts, and prayers left in the comments for me along with several emails of the same, and I guess I realized then that *most* of the world is good... most people are kind. Most people care and I do not want to cut myself off from the people who care, and who I care about, especially now.

As the days have gone by, I feel better and more positive and more sure they will do their tests and bring back good news and nothing will be terribly wrong, and I will take it as a warning to do everything in my power, every day, to eat and live for good health and not wait for a crisis to take care of *me*.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. ~Dalai Lama

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not.  ~Samuel Johnson

There is always a way to be honest without being brutal. ~Arthur Dobrin

Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity. ~ Buddha

As long as we observe love for others and respect for their rights and dignity in our daily lives, then whether we are learned or unlearned, whether we believe in the Buddha or God, follow some religion or none at all, as long as we have compassion for others and conduct ourselves with restraint out of a sense of responsibility, there is no doubt we will be happy. ~ Dalai Lama

I would rather make mistakes in kindness and compassion than work miracles in unkindness and hardness. ~Mother Teresa


76 comments:

Cari Wagner said...

Sorry if you get this twice. I hope and pray you are ok.

You are an awesome person, and I have so much respect for you.

The people who wrote those mean comments are seriously just nasty and evil. Please don't let them make you feel like you are anything less than the amazing woman you are!!!!

MargieAnne said...

What a shame some people are such idiots and I'm so sorry you had those awful comments to sift through.

I too have been wondering where you are but being busy, barely keeping up, I didn't leave a comment. But I did miss you. *smiles*

Glad to see you back but sorry about the tests and anxiety they produce. Here's praying the tests results are nothing too bad.

It sounds as thugh you are finding a happier eating plan. That's good.

Blessings

larsonrh said...

I have never commented before, but I appreciate your blog. You never quit and never give up- that is wonderful. Don't let some cowards with meaness in their hearts get you down. You are better than that!

Blessings- Rhonda

Anonymous said...

I'm wondering if you can submit these comments to the police along with the IP address. You are not likely their only target. Shameful activities.

You will be in my prayers Lyn.

Theresa

Anonymous said...

Hugs to you, Lyn. So sorry for what you are going through and having to deal with comments on top of that.

If you notice for just about any news article online that allows comments, they are generally very hateful, either to the writer or between the commenters. I really don't know what our society has become.

larsonrh said...

I have never commented before, but I enjoy your blog because you never quit and never give in.
Do not let some cowards with meaness in their hearts get you down. You are so much better/stronger than that!

God Bless
Rhonda

Anonymous said...

I will stay anonymous for this: I have been a target of those bullying blogs too. They post the meanest things and their commentators join in and laugh. It is no difference than middle schoolers who taunt the kid who is different. It ruins lives and hurts hearts. We are real people, not just words on a screen. They are just mean. You have my full support. I am praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Shocking! I love your blog and have been genuinely concerned about you. There are weirdos out there but I still think the majority of people are good. I am sorry for what you have been going through and hope you hear good things in the coming days.

Thank you for your honest blog. It's refreshing and makes me feel like I am not alone in this struggle.

Amy

LHA said...

So sorry to hear about the health concerns, but glad to see you back! Also, it is awesome that you feel the new eating plan is working well for you. It just shows that persistence pays!

On the issue of the breast biopsy, fifteen years ago after coming through a horrible period in my life I had the same result on a mammogram. I chose to have the ultrasound and biopsy right away and it turned out to be a benign mass, as a majority of them do. So, I know what you are feeling but wanted to say that good results will surely come your way too.

Ignore the evil, nasty people who would leave such horrible messages. Thankfully, they are in the minority in this world. Thanks for blogging!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry. :(

This is exactly why I've never started a blog. I just can't deal with that sort of hostility. You're so much stronger than I am.

i should be full said...

Your ability to forgive is greater than mine. It is a golden beacon that stands out for many of us. I won't even begin to suppose what makes those bullies so hate filled. They are not worth our time.

Whatever peace you can, please draw from us. We are thinking of you and hoping for you that things turn out well. But know that no matter what happens you will have the strength to face it.

LC said...

I am a first time commenter and a long time reader and I finally felt compelled to write something. These people are shameless and they are idiots!

I don't know why some people act the way they do and why they feel the need to kick others when they may or may not be down, but please don't let them ruin your day.

There are plenty of people out there like me, who don't comment, but are rooting for you and your children each step of the way.

:)

Kristen said...

Lyn, I've been reading you for years, but I'm pretty much just a lurker- not sure whether I've really ever left you any comments. Anyway, I just want to tell you that regardless of whatever insane person/people is/are leaving you such ruthless and unkind notes, there are most definitely many more people like me who read, silently cheer you on, and never comment.

I think you are awesome and I admire your spirit immensely. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers as you await test results. <3

The Robinsons said...

Wow. Just wow. I can't believe some people. Take heart in knowing that there is truly something wrong with them - they are missing a part of their humanity.

I pray that all your tests and your family member's tests come back with good results. Much love, hugs and kindness from us "normal" people who care about you!

Anonymous said...

Long time lurker first time commenter. I feel so bad that you received such awful comments. I would like to say I feel sorry for the sad people who left such vile, cruel comments, because I firmly believe that what goes around comes around. I pray for good results from your tests.

Jo.

Leslie said...

My very best thought and prayers for you with the breast issue. It's so hard being in limbo about something like that!

As for the idiots - how eff-ing pathetic are people's lives that they waste time spreading misery and jackass bullying people they don't know? Sorry you've had to endure that, and kudos for calling them out. Apparently there has been a lot of bullying stuff on the blogs lately.

Liz said...

I'm sorry too Lyn. People can be so horrible behind a computer screen. I also don't understand what would possess someone to say such things. I'll never understand it why people to choose to read blogs of people that they don't like. It's just crazy. I read many blogs and if I don't agree or don't understand or am irritated with what or how the person writes I don't read the blog!!! It's their blog!!! I'll never understand. I'm so sorry it happened to you though and my daughter and I were on vacation at Hilton Head last week and I told her twice "I hope Lyn is ok. It's not like her not to write for so long." :) I'll pray for good news concerning your mammogram results.

Anonymous said...

Lyn, those people have no conscience, and someday life will hand them back the pain and suffering they've inflicted on others, many times over. Try to stay positive, we're with you.

timothy said...

darlin I cant imagine anyone leaving negativity, why bother? I read you cause it inspires me and makes me feel less alone on what is really a lonely journey. sending waves of healing and positivity your way! xoxoxoxo

Anonymous said...

This makes me sad. I can see how people may disagree with your approach (medifast etc.), but that type of hate is astounding. Try not to let it upset you, as tough as it may be-- these people don't really know who you are, and so, at the end of the day, it can never be truly personal, or about you. They must harbor a lot of hatred if they have so much negativity towards someone they don't even know!!

I hope your test results come back okay-- please think hard about Medifast as you go through this process. The chemicals, the soy and artificial sweeteners, while helpful for weight loss, are so damaging for the body. I know someone who followed a similar program, and started developing benign lumps in her breasts, and eventually developed cancer. She's doing fine now, and while we can never know what truly 'caused' it, her doctor has forbid her from eating such foods again. Just some food for thought! - Ally

Making Changes in 2012 said...

Hi Lynn,

I read your blog daily and was wondering where you were. I thought perhaps you were on a dog vacation, or were busy with your children.

I hope you will be okay. As a cancer survivor I can tell you the scariest time is waiting for the diagnosis.

As for the jackholes that wrote those horrible comments to you. May they rot in a hole. Really what kind of a person writes something like that?! If they don't like your blog then they shouldn't read it. Please don't let a few jerks ruin something that means so much to so many people.

xoxoxo

Angela

Anonymous said...

I was concerned about you. Therefore, I was glad to see you had written.

People can be so mean, and it is really difficult to understand their reasoning. When someone was inconsiderate when I was growing up, one of my mother's favorite sayings was: "What goes around, comes around." At times, it seems to happen! I like to keep her saying in the back of my mind when being given a rough time by another.

Praying that you get good results on your tests. Hang in there!!!!

Dr. J said...

Sorry!!

Most of the time these turn out to be nothing.

The Internet has allowed the worst in people to be just a click away. They are cowards.

Betsey C. said...

OMG Lyn, how horrid, mean and cowardly people can be. Protected by the anonimity of the internet. I am so sorry that this ugliness gave you even one minute of pain. Try to feel sorry for them; can you imagine how pitiful their lives must be if they act out in this way? Ugh

I will be thinking about you and sending positive thoughts as you do your doctoring. Keep us posted.

Sending a cyberhug,
Betsey in Chicago

Anonymous said...

I cannot for the life of me comprehend or understand why anyone would think it is okay to say such things to another person.

I may not always agree with everything you do, but I would never wish you harm, as I know you are doing the best you possibly can. As we all are in our daily lives (or most of us anyway).

I am praying your test results come back with nothing to worry about.

Keep moving forward and ignore the people who are obviously just evil bullies who have serious issues with themselves that they need to work through.

Michon said...

I'm sorry to hear people left such ugly comments. I had "wondered" what happen to you because I was hoping you were well. I didn't leave a comment, but missed you.

I've been following your blog for years. It's because of YOU that I tried arugula and LOVE it!! You are an inspiration to SO many people. Don't stop being you!

Mother always tells me, "Consider the source." Wishing you a good evening.

Michon

Tiffany said...

My heart aches to hear the cruelty you received. Some people are despicable. I hope your test results are favorable!

Anonymous said...

Lyn,

I was shocked to read your post today. Like everyone else, I've noticed your absence and have been worried about you and hoping everything was okay. Please know that for every heartless, sad, bottom-dwelling troll out there that posts something horrific on your blog, there are countless more of us out there that are cheering you on and wishing you nothing but the best.
Stay strong!

Kathy said...

Wow, I can't even imagine how you must feel. Post the hateful comments Lyn. I'm sure you have lots of tech savvy fans who can trace these people and publicly "out" them.

Anonymous said...

First of all, we are so happy you're back!!!
It just wasnt the same without you.
I'm sorry to hear about your bad report but I believe there is power in prayer! We will start now! God is all powerful & I will be praying for total healing!!
Im sorry to hear about the senseless comments. I hope you can find assurance in the fact that there are WAY more people rooting for you than the few that are being malicious.
We are here for you! Chin up girlfriend! 😉
-N.

Lyn said...

I am truly so touched by all of this support. I was feeling *really* alone, and I admit it, hurt too, because honestly I have poured my heart into this blog and trying to share myself openly, and to have that kind of response was just... well, not what I feel anyone deserves. I totally get that people won't always agree with my choices or understand what I am thinking. I don't always agree with other bloggers methods or even some of the choices my friends make. But you know, we are all just people doing the best we can. I try so hard to be kind to people and reach out and support people when I can. Your comments have REALLY restored my faith in people... even "strangers" we have never met... to care about each other and make a difference in each others' lives. Each of you made a difference to me today. THANK YOU for lifting me up. I pray your kindness will come back to you tenfold.

Jac said...

Oh Lyn!! I'm so sorry I didn't post my concern and add my voice to those who support you and care about you! I am absolutely appalled that people even THOUGHT those things, let alone actually POSTED them!! I'm so sorry you had to see those comments. I feel sorry for the smallness and bitterness that lives in their hearts. And, frankly, I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with someone like that in real life on a daily basis!

Anonymous said...

I don't agree with a lot of what you write and say. However, the people who left sick comments about hoping you had died or saying nasty things about your kids are scum, the lowest-of-the-low.

They are bottom-feeders and have yet to evolve to the level of ring worms. They probably would have jumped at the opportunity to be concentration camp guards had they lived in that area and era.

Don't take it personally, the world is full of gutless bullies disguised as human beings. Don't acknowledge their existence.

Mir aka Princess Dieter said...

I've not been blogging or even reading blogs much, but I happened upon this (sleepless from body pain today) and it disgusts me that people are this heartless.

I don't know how the web affects folks. I know evil is rampant all over, but I do think that in front of a screen, some folks lose their masks and their true darkness emerges and they say things they'd probably never say to a human's face. It's as if you stop being REAL and they can go to town like rabid dogs.

I don't get it. I wish it didn't happen. I wish folks would think twice before wishing death and ruin on folks they disagree with or have issues with for whatever reason.

The world is dark and hard enough without adding fuel to the nasty fire.

Lyn, glad you got support to offset the meanness. And I hope each of the hard-hearted folks wishing harm upon you get a heart and a clue and come, one day, to apologize for such cruelty. (Unless they're sociopaths, in which case, I guess they'll never have remorse.)

Josie M said...

Some people are just wrong in the head, in their emotions, in their anger and love to hurt. I'm sorry you have to deal with them. Please remember there are lots of people who would never think these things or write them!
I've never left a comment but I too kept checking for your update and felt worried that you hadn't written anything in a week. I saw the comments left for you that echoed what I was thinking and your response and felt better. I've been reading you forever. Thank you for your blog and honesty. There are lots of people out there that appreciate what you do, who like me (until today) don't comment. (but not because they don't care)

LA Janssen said...

Cannot imagine people thinking along these lines, let alone taking the time to type such venom. Mind boggling. But please do not let them get you down, don't give them any power whatsoever. Keep sharing your journey with people who care, and flush the other comments where they belong. Easier said than done, but sadly necessary.

Anonymous said...

Lyn,
What it boils down to is people are jealous of other people. writing a blog like this makes ppl want to see you fail, so why be nice? They don't think before they type. Most ppl have a filter. Its the way we are raised by a good home, family. Moms and dads usually teach their kids to be gracious and caring, apparently these ppl were raised by animals themselves. Disregard them...move on and they will get theirs...my dad always said..."Rose, that old clock keeps on ticking, one day it will stop at them and they will be taken care of in a way that is fit" he makes a lot of sense since I am getting older! :)
Good luck on your health issues...everyone is wishing you the best and saying a prayer for you and your children.
:) Rose

Linda Claxson said...

Jeepers, what on earth possesses one human being to inflict such hurt and pain on another! There's no point telling you to ignore them because that would be asking the impossible but please do not let people like that bring you down or affect your daily life.
Your blog is an inspiration to many of us going through similar journeys in life, I bet not one of those nasty, vile idiots who write such drivel can say the same.
Sadly things like this are often driven by jealousy and misery - we all know misery likes company right.
I sincerely hope that your health is ok.

Linda - Skinny girl where art thou.

401sue said...

It's not you. They are bullys. They have nothing in their lives that excite them.
You, have done an amazing job raising your children. Remember that.

Sunnydaze said...

Sending you prayers adn good vibes. The idiots that wrote those comments are obviously jealous and have serious issues. Keep up the positivity. (hug)

liz said...

I'm sorry, I was worried about you.
Take care of yourself.

dlamb said...

Lyn, first, I hope that your scare turns out to be either a false positive or something that necessitates minimal treatment. You already have enough on your plate.
I have to say, as horrendous as it is, nothing surprises me anymore. I have stopped reading a blog that I quite liked, written by a person whom I admired greatly for many reasons, with the exception of the type of comments you mention. I was absolutely direct about the reason for my need to stop exposing myself to such cruelty and downright ludicrous fantasies about other blogger's lives.

I know it is a lot to ask of you and I am not even suggesting that you find empathy for these people but just try to imagine the turmoil that must be part of their seeming happy, content, secure lives, to create such scenarios, be gleeful about them and feel perfectly happy and satisfied with themselves. The false bravado they present to the world is just that, false.
It must be hard living in your skin when you receive such comments or are aware of the ones that are produced elsewhere. Just IMAGINE living in the skin of those who create them!
Best of everything, as always.

By the way, I am in the camp of commenters who suggested that you post ALL comments, not in order for the individuals to be tracked down, but to expose them, since they are so proud of their " bravery ".

Anonymous said...

I can only guess (because I read their blogs) at who left such cruel comments. I'm so sorry you had to read that, especially at a time when you are having a health scare. Please try to see by the number of positive comments left here that hopefully the "good outweighs the bad" and that people like ones who emailed such trash are few and far between.

dlamb said...

oops, that would be "other bloggers' lives" . Yeah, I AM that compulsive :)

swimmermom said...

Lyn, I don't comment very often, but am doing so now, to be counted as one of your appreciative and regular readers who wishes you only the best.

It is awful to know that there are such impoverished souls in the world as your negative commenters. I like Theresa's suggestion to submit the comments and IP addresses to the police, or someone (who?). People who are capable of leaving hateful comments for as lovely a person as you are probably capable of other bad stuff, but won't be found out unless a cyber-trail is pieced together.

I sincerely hope that you get the best possible news from your and your family member's tests, and that the needle biopsy isn't necessary. (I had one a few years ago and didn't enjoy it!)

Please know that you are an inspiration to me through your openness, honesty, and positivity. I am sure that the people who respect and like you far, far outnumber the cretins!

Marie said...

The internet is great but it has also opened a great new venue for hateful cowards. I am sorry they posted here but whatever, they are out there and they have found a favorite way to anonymously hurt people. So I guess they can enjoy it, until the Judgment Day, when they will answer for it.

Anonymous said...

I don't normally comment, but I want to now, to be a positive voice to help drown out the negative ones. Stay strong.

4 years ago, I had a mass in my breast and had to have a biopsy. I know how scary that is. I hope your doctor has told you, as mine did, that it's very unlikely to be anything serious. Good luck to you in everything.

Lj said...

I just "ran" into your blog today. Actually copied down your Mac and Cheese recipe. Saw your pics and was very inspired, then went to your home page to see if your blog was still current, many aren't. I was sorry to hear of your worries and I hope everything will turn out all right. What is wrong with people, you asked. I have no clue what your 'beliefs' are. In fact, it doesn't matter to me as we each have our own paths in life to walk. But for me, this answers your question.

2 Timothy 3

Good News Translation (GNT)
The Last Days

3 Remember that there will be difficult times in the last days. 2 People will be selfish, greedy, boastful, and conceited; they will be insulting, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, and irreligious; 3 they will be unkind, merciless, slanderers, violent, and fierce; they will hate the good; 4 they will be treacherous, reckless, and swollen with pride; they will love pleasure rather than God; 5 they will hold to the outward form of our religion, but reject its real power. Keep away from such people.

Lj said...

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2 Timothy 3

Good News Translation (GNT)
The Last Days

3 Remember that there will be difficult times in the last days. 2 People will be selfish, greedy, boastful, and conceited; they will be insulting, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, and irreligious; 3 they will be unkind, merciless, slanderers, violent, and fierce; they will hate the good; 4 they will be treacherous, reckless, and swollen with pride; they will love pleasure rather than God; 5 they will hold to the outward form of our religion, but reject its real power. Keep away from such people.

Lyn said...

Thank you again. It is very obvious to me, here, that the good, the kind, the compassionate, far outnumber those who are not. Let's be the good in the world and be peace to everyone who needs it. I am really inspired by you all... thank you.

Shelley Ubeika said...

people are assholes. what happened to you is what gave me great pause about starting a blog of my own. i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for all GOOD and POSITIVE things. <3

Anonymous said...

You rock Lyn! Don't let a few mean comments get to you. Their behavior should make the ashamed and if they have any conscience or any spiritual side we can pray that their inner decency will convict them. Their parents would be so embarrassed of the way their offspring has turned out. I never could understand mean-ness. I assume that mean people were treated meanly as children and learned this behavior, just as molesters were often assaulted as children too. I will pray for their hearts to soften and (if they are in any way Christian or spiritual) for God to show them what they are doing. To the people who said those things: how are you going to face the Lord and explain how you hurt one of His children? Being a bully is never okay.

Amanda

Anonymous said...

I am sorry this happened to you. People are just not nice....it almost seems like kindness and decency have gone out of fashion. The shock value of saying crazy and mean things to one another is so depressing and demoralizing. Please know these are miserable people and they don't matter in your real life. Plenty of people care about you and want you to succeed...me included. Take care.

Anonymous said...

Dear Lyn, There are so many people out there in BlogLand that care about you, that are inspired by you, and motivated to become more healthy because of you and your honesty and your blog - I'm one of them, and I'm just one out of hundreds upon hundreds (if not in the thousands by now) who think you are brilliant, and think your blog is brilliant.

Collectively, we send you much love and positive energy, and of course, prayers. Don't allow those energy vampires to harvest any goodness away from you. They are sick, twisted cowardly predators and bullies, who can only get their pathetic jollies in this way. They aren't worth your energy or your time. Don't allow them to rob either of those from you. They will get their comeuppance, one way or another, at some point in time (the sooner the better). Indeed, what goes around comes around.

Keep on keepin' on Lyn, and know that there are so many people who care and who wish you only the very best, for you and for your family. Take care of yourself.

Anonymous said...

I really enjoy your blog and like many others
was worried about you. But you have a right to blog or not, as you see fit. To many of us you have become a part of our lives and someone we whose thoughts we enjoy reading. As for the people with the negative comments, you can't understand crazy or just plain stupid.

Steelers6 said...

"Keep away from such people" made me smile. :) Good advice!

Taryl said...

It boggles my mind, too. I am exactly the same way online as I am in real life, and if I would not say something to someone in person, in front of other human beings, then I won't type it out on a blog or public forum, either. But there is definitely cultural shift regarding people's behavior - they're brave behind their keyboards and think it is all a game, but discontent, joyless cowards in real life. And I remind myself that I can't control them, but I am accountable before The Lord for every thought and word that comes from me, and those are what I control.

They're accountable too, whether they acknowledge it or not. But my concern and control has to be on the log in my on eye when it comes to Internet usage.

I am so glad you're back, I always miss hearing from you online - but I am SO sorry you're struggling with a fear-inducing situation. I will be praying the biopsy reveals nothing of concern.

Barb said...

It's so much easier to focus on the bad - but most people ARE good, at heart. And you have so many readers (like me) who care about you, and derive tremendous inspiration from you even though we rarely leave comments.
Another blogger I like once wrote that when she got hateful comments, she would just edit them to say something lovely - the hater would of course write again saying they had said no such thing, maybe spewing more hate. She would edit the comments again, and eventually the hater's head would explode. :-) I don't know if Blogger allows you to do something like that, but I thought that was an AWESOME way to deal with trolls!

Anonymous said...

I haven't commented for a while because I have been faltering in my weight loss as well.
I'm so sorry to hear about the results of your mammogram and hopefully it ends up being nothing to worry about.
What I truly don't understand is that if people don't like what we say why read our blog?? And if you have nothing good to say then say nothing. I really wish there were a way to report the people who spew threats it really does come down to bullying.
Wishing you all the best!

Anonymous said...

I've just recently learned how competitive trolling is -- there are apparently even forums devoted to it. The more horrible the comments the better, to that group. I can't fathom it, myself, but some people are just pathetic. I won't say twisted b/c that kind of comments just feeds trolls. I'll say the truth -- they're pathetic.

Love to you,

Arabella

Jami Stakley said...

Oh Lyn I have been worried about you and thought you were to busy to blog. I am so sorry that those evil thoughtless people sent those messages. I have often wondered what is wrong with people. Honestly, I think some are pure evil.

I am praying for you. You have given us all so much of yourself and your experience on this journey. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Anonymous said...

I find it odd that one of the bloggers who gets most of her comments when Lyn is the subject of the day, is under the impression that people hate her because she lost weight. If she is right, I wonder why people do not hate Karen.

Anonymous said...

I know who one of those people is because she bragged about it to me and said some horrible things. Of course, now she will know who I am and ban me, but that is fine. I don't want to be associated with people like her anymore.

I am sorry for anything I contributed towards any of this by not standing up and saying it was wrong. I won't let anyone intimidate me into standing up for what's right ever again.

Anonymous said...

Anon, I doubt you are the only one to whom she bragged. That is the point of doing these things. The purpose is to impress others of the same ilk.

Anonymous said...

I also fell for that blogger's act but I came to my senses and left. I see she has lost more than one follower in recent days. Everyone sees who and what she is.

paceyourselfgirl said...

There's this magic button on all of our keyboards and it's called "delete". If you start to read a comment that turns nasty, stop--hit delete and move on. Don't give these people any more of your valuable time. And besides, who really cares what they think any way? If anything, feel sorry for them. It takes alot of energy to keep that kind of hate burning; blow out their flame by not allowing them any more of your time or attention.

Lyn said...

Pace~

that is exactly what I have done for over two years. And I have never mentioned it until now. Why now? Because when you are already down, in a very vulnerable state, and some of the ugly stuff creeps in in the guise of a nice, kind comment that ends with "congratulations on your mother's death! Now you can be free!" or "I wonder where you've been. Hopefully dead!"... well, that was really not expected. The reason I brought it up at all, for the first time in years, is because that is a good part of WHY I was absent for so long. I thought people would want to know, and I wanted to explain what I have been struggling with. It's not something I am dwelling on or planning to post about again. I agree, not worth the time or attention!

Anonymous said...

Karma is a funny thing. Some of them have daughters. Let's hope they make the connection when the daughters they love are treated the way they treat others.

Lyn said...

Anon~

well, I wouldn't wish sadness or pain on anyone, but I do hope they think about that kind of thing and decide to be kinder people.

paceyourselfgirl said...

I feel as if i offended you and that was not my intention. My apologies if I did.

Lyn said...

pace~

no, you didn't at all. I agree with you. If I sounded aggravated it was in response to the hate comments, not to yours. I know it is hard to read intentions/emotions in print sometimes... but no, your comment was right on!

Chanelle Felder said...

First off... your post made me very sad. VERY sad. I can sympathize because I have also been through so soooo very much with my health and when I am down by news that one of my bad hormones is off the charts, or that I have been denied a certain treatment, mean comments just feel like the worst thing in the world, AND it's like they negate all the good comments and support I always get when I am going through hard times.
I actually had to unfriend a person I have known and liked FOREVER because she came out of nowhere after I had a bad test result and shared my sadness on Facebook, to tell me that I was overreacting and that since her brother had a worse condition, I didn't have the right to complain about anything in my life.
Anyway, I say all that to say that people will find any chink in your armor and attack it, ESPECIALLY on the internet, but to be honest, most of the comments here made me feel a bit............icky? I have always believed that calling bullies haters, scum, assholes... basically using the same bully language to put them down is counterproductive and just... defeats the point of lifting you up. Who knows, maybe that person is dealing with mental illness or a personality disorder or their own health issues? Maybe that person lost a child or a loved one or has absolutely nothing wrong with them and gets real kicks out of validating themselves by putting others down on the internet? Is that an excuse? Abolutly not! I Does it maybe help us undersand why people do what they do and why sending you a deplorable comment on your blog may make a sick, sad or suffering person feel better about themselves? Maybe.
I know some people who make comments for the specific purpose of what's called "internet trolling" where the name of the game is to find random sites and blogs and post mean comments and wait for a negative comment back to start a fight with. None of us know what's going on with them and I find it ironic that we find it ok to assume that someone is a "jealous hater" when they bully us but we automatically consider them a certain way. Yes, reading your account of those comments made emotions rise in me, but it was genuine pity for those whose real lives are so torn or broken; those whose self esteem is so low, that they feel joy to leave horrible messages to a stranger.
If there is one thing I have learned; it may seem like bad things happen to good people, but the good people will rise above, every time. Eventually things will happen to all of us and people who have done nothing but spread hate and steal joy will find that when they need a shoulder to cry on, none will be there. Whether they "deserve" it or not is not for me to decide, but if history has shown that people get what they deserve in life, and no amount of name-calling from either side with speed up that process.

Stay positive, Lyn.
Chanelle

Lyn said...

Thank you Chanelle, you left us all some food for thought.

Chanelle Felder said...

Thank you and.. you're welcome I guess! All of my previous comment is just my take on things and how I reconcile the sometimes horrific actions of others. I just feel that we, as adults, sometimes need to choose the high road after taking our time to be angry and outraged, as we should be, from the comments people make. When we are put down, our reflex is to give the same back, but that just validates a bully's words. Our goal is to invalidate those words and use them as fuel for success.

Chanelle

Deborah said...

I think we all more or less have tried those vicious comments from thoughtless mean people who obviosly dosen't stop to think.

Not worth the time you spent writing this post - really. I'm sorry you had a health scare, and I'm hoping the best for you.

Ron from NJ said...

I cannot imagine someone saying or doing what you described. I have always known that many people are horrible online but wishing someone ate themself to death?

I wish you all the best in your journey.