Saturday, March 23, 2013

Accepting Changes

Last night we went out to dinner. After a day of Medifast, I had a dinner of hazelnut-crusted trout, asparagus, and a mixed green salad with cherry tomatoes and blue cheese dressing on the side. I drank unsweetened iced tea and had my dessert when I got home: a cup of black decaf coffee. All of it tasted great and I feel so much better eating this way (for life). For the first time in AGES I forgot to ask about the sides that came with the fish, and instead of getting a double veggie serving, my plate came with one serving of asparagus and a pile of rice pilaf. I just left the rice on the plate.

It is easier, over time, to be accepting of the changes... of leaving or not ordering things like rice or pasta, of basing my diet around vegetables and protein, of not ordering dessert. In the beginning it felt a bit awkward to order differently. I felt a little deprived by skipping the carby side dishes. The extra veggies and plain salads were sort of punishing at first... my "consequence" for eating so much in the past that I'd become morbidly obese. I felt awkward sitting at the table just watching while others ordered and enjoyed decadent desserts, and I'd have a pang of regret when people would offer me a bite of their sweets and I'd say no thanks. But now, after all this time, it is just normal to me. It is comfortable and happy. I like eating this way and don't want to change it. I no longer that thoughts of "when I get off this diet I am going to have some cheesecake!" or "I can't wait to eat pasta again when I get to goal!" No. I like the extra veggies, I *usually* don't miss the starch (although I admit there are days I really crave some chips or other junk) and I associate sugary things with pain. It's taken awhile but it really has become part of who I am and what I do, by default.

In a little over a week I am going to get on the scale. Last week I was a little worried about that, because my clothes feel the same and I do not see weight loss in the mirror. This week, my jeans have gotten a little looser, finally, so perhaps I will get a better result than I expect. We'll see.


Karen said...

Best to own what you eat and what you weigh- IMO.

No punishment, just data to change those daily choices into ones that take you to weight loss rather than weight maintenance.

Avoiding the scale kept me in obesity la-la land for so many years. I know for some, it is anxiety ridden. For me loosing $30/month for my health premiums for a year is too big of a price. Let alone the chronic health problems.

Glad you are getting back on the scale. Hope you will no matter how your clothes feel. Owning your plan is key. Has staying off the scale helped you move forward or kept you stuck? When you were loosing a lot- did you weigh a lot? When you are maintaining or gaining, did you weigh more? A look back at your weight data is a good way to access the pattern. You could even graph it!

Look for patterns-IMO. My pattern is to gain weight when not weighing in. Life long pattern. Scale is a tool ( one of many) to stay owning it.

If staying off the scale works for you, I'd be willing to bet you'll see consitent losses. If it does not the result may be maintain or gain.

Keep OP with your Medifast plan. Or any plan. It's the only way to break free. The back and forth = neutral.


Anonymous said...

I don't understand how ordering the dressing on the side constitutes a "plain salad?" It seems like if you ate any of the dressing the salad is no longer "plain."

Lyn said...


Throughout my 5 years of blogging I have almost always weighed daily... when losing, gaining, or maintaining. I would start to avoid the scale if I was eating off plan a lot, thinking "oh, I'll weigh when I get back on plan." THAT, to me, is dangerous, head-in-the-sand behavior! I avoid that at all costs. The time we need the scale's feedback the most is when we are sabotaging ourselves.

That said, I was stressing out over my very slow losses so I switched to weighing once a month a couple months ago. I find it has been helpful because I just focus on eating well, regardless of what a scale may or may not say.


I have come to *love* the taste of plain green salads! It looks so vibrant on the plate and I can taste all the delicate flavors of the vegetables. I generally don't want all the decorations like bacon bits, cheese, and croutons at all. I use the side dressing as a condiment, dipping my fork in once in awhile to get a taste of the delicious blue cheese. But most of my bites are plain :)

Mrs Swan said...

I wish there was a way to bottle the self satisfied feeling one has when they are on plan and life is grand.

Your comment is spot on for all of us Karen as usual.

Jami Stakley said...

I have a love hate relationship with the scale. I used to weigh daily. Big mistake. I have weaned myself to bi-weekly. I still think that is too much. I do like Karen's idea for graphing the data. A person could track daily intake or weekly and graph it with their weight. But at the end of the day you know what works for you. I did send you an e-mail with a few questions.

CatherineMarie said...

I know what worked for me, and what I am getting back to is "goal pants". These are NOT pants for your final goal, but that are a little too small for you right now. A size smaller than your current size. Something that doesn't quite button, or that you can't quite get over the hips of doom.

Because when you can get into that pair of pants, and use that as a measurement, it is rewarding, it shows progress, etc. And it give you something to wear at the smaller size.

Anonymous said...

FYI - lorrie fenn of the token fat girl passed away last week

Lyn said...


this is terribly sad :(

Thank you for letting me know.