It is so, so easy to look at everything that's wrong in your life and blame it on the fat and the food.
If I wasn't fat, I'd have a better job.
If I lost weight, I'd find Mr. Right and be happy.
If I could get thin, I would be so much more active.
If I weren't so obsessed with eating, I could get more important things done.
If I didn't have the ice cream addiction, I would not be so depressed.
If I could drop 40 pounds, I wouldn't be stuck in this rut.
I did it for years. I *still* catch myself doing it sometimes. In my head I'd think about how great life would be if I weighed X pounds instead of Y pounds. I just KNEW everything would turn around once I got the weight off. After all, *not* being morbidly obese anymore has to fix a lot of things, right?
Well it did fix a lot of things. It did. At 175 pounds, yes, my life was so much easier in a lot of ways than at 278 pounds. I could move more freely. I had less pain. Getting dressed was a lot more fun and a lot less complicated. I felt better about myself, and my health improved. Life was more *fun.* But losing 100 pounds did *not* fix everything.
If your marriage is in the toilet, losing 100 pounds will not turn it into a happy relationship.
If you are a sloppy housekeeper with a clutter problem, losing 100 pounds is not going to turn you into an organization diva.
If you lack the drive to move up in your career, weight loss alone will not infuse you with the drive to do so.
100 pounds less, you'll still be sad, if you don't fix the stuff that was underneath the fat... that's still underneath the thin.
When I catch myself in a mopey moment, muttering, "if I could get this damn weight off my life would be SO much better," I stop. I make a mental note of what brought on those feelings. And I figure out what I can do *now*, today, in this moment, to create that "so much better" at the weight I already am.
If you wait until you are successful at getting all the weight off to start living, to start making important (and difficult) changes, you are wasting days and weeks and months of YOUR LIFE that you will never get back. Today you are the youngest that you will ever be again. Soon you will be older, it will be harder, the year will be gone forever. Do not wait.
Keep working on your weight loss and health goals, yes. But blaming *life stuff* on the weight is useless. Make the best of today by working to change what you want changed, NOW, whether you weigh 50 or 100 or 200 or 300 pounds more than you'd like. Because even if you never lose another pound, you deserve to have the rich life you are looking forward to... now.
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