Monday, February 27, 2012

Harder

Eating more is somehow harder for me. Not that I was doing so great before, but all the *options* now and the relaxation of strictness makes me want to eat, and eat. Thankfully so far what I've been eating a lot of is vegetables; five servings a day plus 2 servings of fruit is a LOT of produce. But still, I keep thinking about eating a bowl of chips or a sub or a plate of fries. I don't do it, but my brain keeps going there. I just want to eat, not one banana, but a banana cream pie. Not a cup of coffee with Splenda and a tablespoon of half and half, but a huge sweetened latte with some biscotti. I dunno why my brain goes there but today I spent a heck of a lot of time doing yard work, cleaning toilets, doing laundry, and doing other housework just to try and focus my brain off food that would not be good for me. Sometimes I think it really is a wonder I haven't gained it all back.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is the time Lyn! Train that brain of yours to behave differently. It's going to take some time (and a lot of effort), but believe me, it can be done. This is where the real work begins.

lisa~sunshine said...

I have to train my brain to just not overeat.. I don't have the same issues as you.. I can make sure I eat clean foods.. but I want to eat 6 bananas a container or raspberries.. a container of blackberries and a apple.. it would still be a lot of calories.. it would spike my blood sugar like crazy and I know I can do it.. but monitoring myself and not letting myself go crazy even with clean foods.. is a lesson..

Phoenix said...

Sigh. I've so been there. That's why dieting does not work, IMO. The focus is so completely on food. The day I gave myself permission to eat anything I wanted to was the day my cravings stopped. Ironic, but true.

Diandra said...

Yeah, it takes some time to learn if one really wants to eat something, or if brain is just messing with itself, going, "Hey, we could eat THIS! And THAT! And look, a cookie!" Good news is, you will get there.

Karen said...

I just finished MF transition. I'd did find it tough to start dropping MF meals. I've also found that adding in protein with my mid morning fruit snack key to not being too hungry before lunch.

Harde boiled egg whites, 1-2 oz of cooked chicken, scrambled egg substitute have been working for me.

I used a recent trip to wean myself down to about one medifast meal a day. Its a lot of time in the kitchen preparing fresh foods I'm following the Refuse to Regain 12 rules by Barbara Berkeley , 90 day opt out now with a modified Pale/Primarian approach.

Even though it's a big change from MF, I'm sticking with the modified Paleo. I was lucky enough to attend a half day seminar by Sarah Fragroso the author of Everyday Paleo. Awesome book/cookbook and the recipes are family friendly.

Best of luck and safe travels. KarenP

Anonymous said...

Some days are just harder than others. Maybe it's just a reaction to the loosened restrictions, that "all or nothing" thing. Good luck!

Arabella

Anonymous said...

Lyn, you HAVE to read this: I thought it was fascinating:
http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/culturebox/2012/02/an_excerpt_from_charles_duhigg_s_the_power_of_habit_.html

I can't wait to read the book when it comes out as well. I think there's a lot of truth in it in terms of the brain craving/reward system and how it leads to habit formation.

Anonymous said...

Lynn, a lot of medifasters in transition "re do" or extend phases if they feel they aren't ready for the next step. Some skips steps entirely because they know they can't handle, say, grains.

Unlike 5 and 1, transition benefits from personalization. If fruit is a trigger, then reduce or eliminate fruit for now. Go back to week 1 or skip to week 3.

Lori said...

I do the same thing sometimes. It gets so frustrating. I have struggled with a real 'all or nothing' mindset particularly when it comes to eating. If you find the key, please let us all know!
Lori

Tammy said...

I'm trying to remember back, but it seems like you had the same issue the last time you tried to transition. Must just be because you've been restricted for so long and now your brain wants to cut loose. Just take it one day at a time and make the best choices you can. A friend told me that before I eat something questionable, ask yourself "will this make things better...or worse? Help, or hurt?"

Anonymous said...

Lyn, I really feel for you! I believe it has to do with the pathways re. addictive behavior. There are numerous triggers that affect us, such as familiar places, people, activities, emotions, or in the circumstances you describe, "normal/regular food".
I remember in the age of the dinosaurs there was something called "near beer", a non alcoholic beer. Recovering alcoholics were always warned to refrain from even trying it because after a while they invariably went for the real thing. It tasted so close to beer, yet they could "control" it, the logic went, why not just have the real thing and they will be able to limit it just the same. This never really worked for the majority of them and they relapsed.
It is the reason why work with addictive behaviors includes several changes not simply the "just say no" adage. With FOOD, the changes are absolutely torturous since we have to make choices every second of every waking hour.
We NEED to eat. We do not need to gamble or smoke or drink, in order to survive, so the never ending "abstinence" is a behavior that does not come easily to most of us. In addition, eating, in and of itself is not frowned upon and in fact, most eating occasions are sanctioned in the manner in which most of us do it publicly.
It becomes so exhausting for us to make minute by minute decisions about an activity that is necessary and should be automatic and effortless as are other bodily functions. Seeing others eat the way we breathe (assuming we do not suffer from respiratory problems), makes our "fate" appear unfair. Often we do not know that those who APPEAR to have an easy time with eating and in fact consume large amounts of food that we would never allow ourselves to eat, especially in public yet remain svelte and healthy looking, only eat that way occasionally and what we see them eating may be the one meal they will eat all day. We see that, feel deprived and believe we should be able to eat that way every day, at every meal. Please know I am not implying you think that way, I am saying that a lot of us do.
Anyway, sort of meandered of your topic for the day. It is my belief that the closer you come to eating the way you believe is "normal", which is definitely the way you should be eating if it meets your needs, goals and desires, you may not only come close to the way you used to eat previously but to the way you may perceive those who do not have difficulty with controlling their eating do it.

I wish you success with navigating through this complex issue.
m/b

Lyn said...

Thank you for all the thoughts and information. It does help me try to work my way through this. I do not want to start gaining again!

Anonymous said...

Hi Lyn!

Something that works for me is imagining your favorite food and how much you'd like to eat of it, and now imagine an exhorbant amt of it, like a million cheeseburgers or a 1000 bags of oreos. And tell yourself that they will follow you around and be with your always, forever, they will ALWAYS be there... now see how much you'd like to have..... i find that if you are in a place (in your mind) of ABUNDANCE (I can eat any of this at ANY time) instead of a place of deprivation ("stop thinking about it" - you're NOT ALLOWED to have it) you will find you're much less apt to overeat or even eat that food. I've lived my whole life with the mentality of having to eat (overeat) something NOW because it's the last time I'll ever be allowed to eat it... or I cant even eat ONE bite because i'll never be able to stop.

This abundance thinking really seems to work... it feels peaceful and comfortable with the knowledge that this food will follow me anywhere in case i want it (which is true... the world isnt going to run out of mcdonals or oreos)

This is a trick from the 4-day win :)

Leslie

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