She started getting chubby when she was about 9 years old. I'd watched her grow up without a father and with an obese mother and as she hit puberty the little girl got stouter but not taller. She was short like the rest of her family... short and "heavy-set" as they put it. It was in her genes, obviously, and anyone could tell as the girl went through her teens that she was just one of those girls who was big boned. Destined to be large. Hard to imagine her thin. You know the type. Kind of like I see myself... "I could never be super thin. I am just not made that way. I have a large frame. My body is curvy." And her mother had the same body type, so, you know, no one questioned it.
And then the chubby little girl, heavy set teen, grew into her young womanhood and DECIDED to lose weight.
Poof! In less than a year, instead of the young heavy chick coming out the doorway down the street, there was a waif of a woman... a thin yet still healthy-looking young lady who most decidedly does NOT have big bones or a large frame or a body that simply MUST have an extra layer of curvy fat to look good. She looks great. She exudes happiness and energy. Frankly, I was astounded. How could this be? All this time, the woman (and her mother) had this can't-be-thin body type (visually) and now, she looks like one of those girls you see and think, "she was born with it. She just has that thin fit body type. She must have a great metabolism."
I speak from my own experience, as well as the things I hear around me. People look and take in body types and make assumptions based on how hefty or sturdy or tiny a person appears. We even make those assumptions about *ourselves.* I have. Maybe I am wrong. I was certainly wrong about her. How about her mother? My mother? Were they just more woman 'destined' to be fat because they were short and big boned and just "the heavy type?" How would anyone ever truly know what is under there unless they make the change?
Just food for thought. Makes me take a second look at the way I see myself.
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