Sunday, August 15, 2010

Valiance

It's hard to believe now, but did you know that 12-18 months ago, when I was struggling so hard not to regain all 64 pounds I'd lost by August 2008, I had people leaving me comments and sending me emails saying, "I am not going to read your blog anymore! You aren't losing weight. You used to be an inspiration but you're not anymore." The words stung, because I was *trying* as hard as I could to keep getting the weight off, but I felt like I had this out-of-control binge monster taking over my head. For 20 months I battled, up and down the same 20 pounds, and instead of seeing THAT as somehow valuable, I got, "Your blog isn't inspiring anymore. I am tired of coming here everyday and seeing you gain weight."

I could have quit right then and there. I could have said, "they're right! I am a failure. I can't even get back down to 214 pounds again. I may as well quit." But thankfully, I believed in MYSELF. I knew I needed to go through the process, and if I didn't quit I would somehow figure this crazy thing out and eventually the weight would come off. It HAD to, if I kept working at it... chipping away. And I am so very thankful for the many people who saw through the weight gains and the binges, who saw the true me... the real me, who *could* succeed and would figure it out. Thank you for believing in me, for having faith in me and still reading and being supportive when, for months on end, it looked like I was fighting a losing battle.

It doesn't matter what it looked like. What mattered was NOT GIVING UP. I have said it so many times, and it is such a cliche that people always say "never give up" but really, I mean it! Take it to heart. Keep going and never stop trying, even if people laugh and mock and abandon you because you do not fit some Ideal of The Master Weight Loser who loses weight every week, never eats anything off plan, and has it all figured out. That wasn't me then, and it isn't me now. No one's perfect. I am the same as you are. I struggle. It's a learning process. And if that fails to inspire people, then I wish them the best and hope they find what they are looking for elsewhere.

It's just interesting, I think, because now that I am losing weight, I am inspiring. Now that my waist is smaller, I am worthy of all kudos. But the real inspiration is found in those blog posts when I was struggling, fighting, clawing my way out of the abyss and fighting a mighty battle NOT to regain all those pounds. It was hard. BUT I WON. I won that battle and am losing weight again. The war's not over yet.

If I stop losing weight now, regain ten pounds and struggle for a year, am I any less valiant? No, I don't think so. I am proud of every time I got up off the floor and kept going. I am so proud of that.

So think about it. When you read a blog and you think, "Geez, all this person ever does is make excuses and go off plan," perhaps you are mistaken. They may be wounded but valiant. They may be victorious. Cheer them on... no judgement, just compassion. Lift up the fallen and you raise yourself as well.

"I saw an angel in the marble and carved until I set him free." ~Michelangelo

78 comments:

I'm Annie said...

I, for one, am SO glad you didn't give up! I have just recently found your blog and have become a regular reader. You ARE an inspiration, and please know, those of us on the same srtuggling path as you are KNOW how hard the "off plan" or "gain" posts are to even think about, let alone write and post.

You are indeed courageous, and an inspiration to more than you could imagine. I admire your honesty and I thank you for it. :)

Twix said...

Love that quote by Michelangelo. AWESOME!!

Unfortunately we live in an instantaneous society. Sad but true!

BUT!

Thank God we aren't microwave dinners. We're the real deal!

So to all those that want fast food, McDonalds is around the corner.

Lyn keep being real, I'll keep coming around! (((hugs)))

MargieAnne said...

You had so much going on in your life over a long period of time that it's no wonder you had a time of not consistently loosing weight. Some people are fickle and I bet most of those who gave up on you were either those unwilling to face their own demons or had such tiny amounts of weight to lose that they couldn't identify with the strength it takes to endure.

I'm so glad you pulled up enough strength from within to prevent you from caving.

We all have our own experience and yours is an amazing one. For me it was precious to read your Journal through that time, as it continues to be inspiring. You wrote with integrity. You wrote about your frustrations and successes and failures with equal honesty. It was very powerful.

I have learned so much about expressing myself and what is going on within, under the radar, from you and one or two others like yourself.

Every person who is serious about losing weight and has issues, and that must be all of us faces much of what you have faced at some time. Although maybe there are a few who simply do not understand what over-eating does to them and just eat beacause food is there.

We are such complex beings and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for continuing to write even when it must have been almost impossible to endure the pain.

Don't ever stop writing because I think it's your salvation and quite possibly your future.

Blessings

CathyB said...

Anyone who would say those things probably doesn't have much weight to lose, or doesn't have much experience at attempting weight loss. I've never known anyone who had much weight to lose who didn't struggle with it, and have episodes of falling off the wagon, going off program, etc. In fact, I find it far more inspiring to witness someone OVERCOME the struggles to lose weight than I do someone who claims to do it effortlessly. Most of us can very closely identify with failed attempts, starting over again and again. I think you are to be applauded for maintaining your blog during your difficult times, and getting back on that wagon again and again. It's also important to remember that our blogs are as much for us, probably MORE so, than for other people. If other people are inspired and are supportive with their comments, that's an added bonus. I have very few readers of mine, but that's okay. I write it for me. And the thought that someone might read it and be inspired is added motivation for me to "do good". You deserve kudos whether you are losing or whether you're not. You've kept your blog through the good times and bad, and that's incredible. :-)
CathyB

Jane said...

As one who is struggling to find a path to a consistent weight loss, this post was just what I needed to hear. Good for you for staying the course, in spite of challenges. You're doing great!

Lanie Painie said...

Awesome post. I think it's terrible that people felt they had to belittle you like that when you needed support most. The world is full of jerks, ain't it?

If I were you I probably woulda told them "leave if you want because I'm not doing this for you, I'm doing it for me."

No wonder people think I'm a pain!

Steph said...

I could not agree more! You are always inspiring to me, whatever the post.

I am noticing more and more how negative my self-talk is. You're story is helping me see that if I avoid temptation 287 times a day, but fail to avoid it once, I tell myself I'm a total failure and wonder how hard it could be to have one totally on plan day. But it's not about that... Like when you were 80% on plan, though pushing yourself to break through the plateau. I am so encouraged to know that you DID persevere, kept pushing, and you have found the way that is working for you! Thank you for honest posts, thank you for sharing the real struggle, and thanks for preparing posts for us before you left! So great! Hope you return rested and joyful!

Lisa said...

I agree! I think that its valiant and inspiring that you never gave up. It doesn't matter what you weigh but you believe in yourself. Weight loss is a struggle and to maintain will be a struggle, but you love yourself enough to keep trying. Great post!

screwdestiny said...

Oh my gosh, I freaking love that quote at the end! I kept following your blog because I knew you would get back on track eventually, and it was inspiring to see you hold on. That, and you're a fantastic writer so no matter what the content, it's always interesting to read.

Lynna said...

The number on the scales is the least of the reasons why I read your blog. I read it because of your insights into what makes you tick and all the HARD WORK you have done and have shared. I'm not talking about exercise or dieting, I'm talking about the emotional healing and self-understanding. THAT's what ultimately leads to weight loss but, way more importantly, to a life well lived.

elleblogs said...

You ARE such an inspiration Lyn, I'm glad you kept blogging through it all, and really especially through the hard parts because it makes your current success that much more special (not quite the word I'm looking for, but it's late). I know you've stopped by my blog before, but I decided to stop writing, I've been finding that I like my internal monologue to be just that, internal. In case you are curious, since July 4th, I have made it from 248.6 down to 230.6, so it's a step back in the right direction!

jules said...

Wow, that is a very smart way of looking at it! and so true! You should be proud for fighting and hanging on to it. I've seen your recent pictures and you look amazing. I aven "stole" the quote from michelangelo and posted it on my facebook. hope you don't mind. Hang in there - you have achieved so much. Your blog really helps me a lot!!

Anonymous said...

Lyn,
The people who left such hurtful comments should be ashamed of themselves. I think your BEST and MOST inspiring blog posts are those that you wrote while you were fighting that weightloss monster. Maybe it is because it made you more real to me. I don't know you in person so if all I ever read was how fabulous you were doing and how weightloss was easy I would feel bad about myself. I am glad that I was able to find your blog and read all of those FABULOUS posts and I definitely learned somethings along the way :)
Many blessings to you my friend. You are in inspiration. Thanks for never giving up!
Sarah Lownsbery
sarah_lownsbery(at)yahoo(dot)com

(((((HUGS))))) sandi said...

I am angry for you as I read this. I am just starting my weight loss journey and honestly am not excited. I'm still not sure if I'm doing for myself or for the judgements of others. Through it all though, there is a person in here. I'm so sorry for such yucky attitudes and painful, discouraging comments! (((((HUGS))))) sandi

Dinnerland said...

You're right. It's your path. Don't let anyone hate on you. I swore I'd never give up-- and I never have and I never will.

Joy said...

Lyn, At least you are still trying. I've followed people who have quit!! Makes me so sad, you look at the things they had written and there was so much hope and determination in their words. I still write to them. I hope one day they will try again and see the notes that written to them, even after they stopped their plan. I HOPE it makes a difference!! Hope it gives them inspiration to get started again and keep going.

You know I think you had to go through this, because there are people reading your posts who are going through the same thing you are going through. They need to see there is hope! You gave them some today!!!

Keep up the great work. Please don't ever, ever, ever give up!!

Hugs!

Fat Grump said...

Oh Lyn..I am smiling here.

I bet lots of us are where you used to be - regaining, struggling, feeling exasperated, defeated and weary. I'm there! I almost apologise for my posts:) Inspirational they ain't! As you mentioned, I also wonder if there are people out there who may have read about my inability to get it right and despair of me. I am the person writing about the struggles, my lack of progress and the stupid ways in which I self-sabotage all my plans. I think knowing that others, like you, are fallible, fail, have down days, have times when they want to give up etc, actually strengthen our resolve.

I am always happy to read about people who are doing well, who have taken off and are eating sensibly and exercising like it is second nature. It happens and if others can do it, so can I. I want to reach that stage, but I haven't yet. I haven't quit either, but I am struggling to find a good mental frame of mind which sees me progress regularly, albeit slowly. I stall - lots, but in doing that and writing about my less than successful days and my thought processes, I am learning lots. I nodded along to much of your stuff Lyn. I certainly have learned a lot from you about working with down days, staying on course, endurance, resolve, determination, the psychological weights we carry round with us, and the mental beatings up we can subject ourselves to. I have to say I really don't find posts about reps at the gym, weights, classes,protein shakes, running marathons and personal trainers etc very interesting or helpful - but that's just me. I am not at that stage and probably never will be, through choice. I am not a gym bunny. The 'human' side of weight loss, finding solutions to problems, alternatives which work, learning about life-long ways of eating, new ways of thinking and staying on course despite crappy life-situations we find ourselves in occasionally, motivates me much more. To each their own as always. We go with whatever floats our boat.

Someone like you, who falters, who doesn't quit, who thinks about the whys and where fores of weight loss/gain, and who is now succeeding is DEFINITELY worth reading. I am thankful that I found your blog. Many of us are where you were Lyn.

(Sorry for long reply!)

Fat Grump said...

Oh Lyn..I am smiling here.

I bet lots of us are where you used to be - regaining, struggling, feeling exasperated, defeated and weary. I'm there! I almost apologise for my posts:) Inspirational they ain't! As you mentioned, I also wonder if there are people out there who may have read about my inability to get it right and despair of me. I am the person writing about the struggles, my lack of progress and the stupid ways in which I self-sabotage all my plans. I think knowing that others, like you, are fallible, fail, have down days, have times when they want to give up etc, actually strengthen our resolve.

I am always happy to read about people who are doing well, who have taken off and are eating sensibly and exercising like it is second nature. It happens and if others can do it, so can I. I want to reach that stage, but I haven't yet. I haven't quit either, but I am struggling to find a good mental frame of mind which sees me progress regularly, albeit slowly. I stall - lots, but in doing that and writing about my less than successful days and my thought processes, I am learning lots. I nodded along to much of your stuff Lyn. I certainly have learned a lot from you about working with down days, staying on course, endurance, resolve, determination, the psychological weights we carry round with us, and the mental beatings up we can subject ourselves to. I have to say I really don't find posts about reps at the gym, weights, classes,protein shakes, running marathons and personal trainers etc very interesting or helpful - but that's just me. I am not at that stage and probably never will be, through choice. I am not a gym bunny. The 'human' side of weight loss, finding solutions to problems, alternatives which work, learning about life-long ways of eating, new ways of thinking and staying on course despite crappy life-situations we find ourselves in occasionally, motivates me much more. To each their own as always. We go with whatever floats our boat.

Someone like you, who falters, who doesn't quit, who thinks about the whys and where fores of weight loss/gain, and who is now succeeding is DEFINITELY worth reading. I am thankful that I found your blog. Many of us are where you were Lyn.

(Sorry for long reply!)

Fat Grump said...

Oh Lyn..I am smiling here.

I bet lots of us are where you used to be - regaining, struggling, feeling exasperated, defeated and weary. I'm there! I almost apologise for my posts:) Inspirational they ain't! As you mentioned, I also wonder if there are people out there who may have read about my inability to get it right and despair of me. I am the person writing about the struggles, my lack of progress and the stupid ways in which I self-sabotage all my plans. I think knowing that others, like you, are fallible, fail, have down days, have times when they want to give up etc, actually strengthen our resolve.

I am always happy to read about people who are doing well, who have taken off and are eating sensibly and exercising like it is second nature. It happens and if others can do it, so can I. I want to reach that stage, but I haven't yet. I haven't quit either, but I am struggling to find a good mental frame of mind which sees me progress regularly, albeit slowly. I stall - lots, but in doing that and writing about my less than successful days and my thought processes, I am learning lots. I nodded along to much of your stuff Lyn. I certainly have learned a lot from you about working with down days, staying on course, endurance, resolve, determination, the psychological weights we carry round with us, and the mental beatings up we can subject ourselves to. I have to say I really don't find posts about reps at the gym, weights, classes,protein shakes, running marathons and personal trainers etc very interesting or helpful - but that's just me. I am not at that stage and probably never will be, through choice. I am not a gym bunny. The 'human' side of weight loss, finding solutions to problems, alternatives which work, learning about life-long ways of eating, new ways of thinking and staying on course despite crappy life-situations we find ourselves in occasionally, motivates me much more. To each their own as always. We go with whatever floats our boat.

Someone like you, who falters, who doesn't quit, who thinks about the whys and where fores of weight loss/gain, and who is now succeeding is DEFINITELY worth reading. I am thankful that I found your blog. Many of us are where you were Lyn.

(Sorry for long reply!)

Fat Grump said...

Oh Lyn..I am smiling here.

I bet lots of us are where you used to be - regaining, struggling, feeling exasperated, defeated and weary. I'm there! I almost apologise for my posts:) Inspirational they ain't! As you mentioned, I also wonder if there are people out there who may have read about my inability to get it right and despair of me. I am the person writing about the struggles, my lack of progress and the stupid ways in which I self-sabotage all my plans. I think knowing that others, like you, are fallible, fail, have down days, have times when they want to give up etc, actually strengthen our resolve.

I am always happy to read about people who are doing well, who have taken off and are eating sensibly and exercising like it is second nature. It happens and if others can do it, so can I. I want to reach that stage, but I haven't yet. I haven't quit either, but I am struggling to find a good mental frame of mind which sees me progress regularly, albeit slowly. I stall - lots, but in doing that and writing about my less than successful days and my thought processes, I am learning lots. I nodded along to much of your stuff Lyn. I certainly have learned a lot from you about working with down days, staying on course, endurance, resolve, determination, the psychological weights we carry round with us, and the mental beatings up we can subject ourselves to. I have to say I really don't find posts about reps at the gym, weights, classes,protein shakes, running marathons and personal trainers etc very interesting or helpful - but that's just me. I am not at that stage and probably never will be, through choice. I am not a gym bunny. The 'human' side of weight loss, finding solutions to problems, alternatives which work, learning about life-long ways of eating, new ways of thinking and staying on course despite crappy life-situations we find ourselves in occasionally, motivates me much more. To each their own as always. We go with whatever floats our boat.

Someone like you, who falters, who doesn't quit, who thinks about the whys and where fores of weight loss/gain, and who is now succeeding is DEFINITELY worth reading. I am thankful that I found your blog. Many of us are where you were Lyn.

(Sorry for long reply!)

Andrea said...

1. Thank God you didn't give up, for yourself firstly and then for the inspiration you give to others.

2. I can't believe that people would make those comments to you. I just can't.

Thank you for sharing your most personal story, for me it's reading about the hard times of others that spurs me - if you can get through it so can I!!

Cathy said...

I like when people post even when they are not losing weight. If they don't post it means they have given up.
Blog readers have a strong sense of entitlement, don't they :)

Shane G. said...

Lyn, I was not around for the haters and I wish I would have been. I would have told them all off. But the important thing, you believed in you, you struggled on, you got it right. I went and looked at your progress pictures and I have to say wow. You "clean up" well lady! I hope to have my own progress pics like that. No, not hope, I will have progress pics like that one day.

Ry said...

Anyone who posts comments like that is not realistic about their own journey... seriously. To really embrace and be in awe of what you've gone through and overcome, both the ups and downs are included. It's the FACT that you CONTINUE to PERSEVERE despite the setbacks that makes you inspiring. :)

oh_mg said...

I think your blog is inspiring because you didn't quit, even when things weren't going they way you would've liked! If losing weight was easy, everyone would do it and there would be no problems. But learning new habits is even tougher than trying to unlearn old ones, and so even "failures" should be seen as learning experiences. It reminds me of a quote from a documentary I saw last week: "It's not easy. It's a life commitment, and that's not to be taken with a grain of salt. You're going to fail, and you're going to get back on. I think that a lot of programs are like, 'Oh! Just do this and then you're good and you go back to your life.' You don't go back to your life. I mean this is your life." Keep up the good work!

Jenification said...

You are completely right that the success of weight loss is not the loss of pounds, but the commitment through the hard times and the good times. I am proud of you!

Tammy said...

Amen sister! :)

Anonymous said...

Right on!

Marie

Leslie said...

I really needed this post today, Lyn, because I'm feeling the way you felt back when you were really in the struggle. I haven't posted for 3 days, and was thinking of just giving up my blog because it isn't doing me or anyone else any good.

But like you, I'm not giving up, and I'm trying to not give into the shame that tells me I'm not entitled to be here (anywhere) because of my endless weight struggle. Your progress now truly is inspiring. Today I came to your blog by typing in "escape" because I wanted to see if you were back and had lost more weight on vacation. And your post was exactly what I needed to hear.

I think I'm going to buy a month worth of Medifast with the savings - just to give it a shot. I need to do something different. Thanks, Lyn.

Lori said...

Lyn,
People are continually asking me what my "secret" is to losing weight. My answer is to never quit. I know it sounds trite but it is true.

You are exactly right about the struggles. Those should be the most inpiring times both for the one going through them and the followers. People are just strange sometimes.

Welcome back! I hope you had a great trip. I, personally, am looking forward to soaking up all the inspiration I can get!
Lori

Cupcake Quandry said...

I really appreciate your post, as someone who is struggling and goes off track a lot. I post my struggles but then I think "I bet no one is going to read about me eating pizza or drinking beer, they just want to see the good stuff.

I think the painful stuff is the good stuff.

Gina said...

I needed this in the worst way today!
Thank you so much.
-Gina

Dillypoo said...

Even though my journey's path and the roadblocks on it are different from yours, following along as you overcome your obstacles is inspiration for me. Knowing that you can recover from a stumble encourages me to keep at it when I do, too. Thank you for sharing your journey into self discovery and your weight loss battle!

Steelers6 said...

Well, *I* get it, and get this post, and of course have cheered you on through, erm, "thick and thin", but unfortunately those who probably need to read this post titled "Valiance" the most have gone? Why go? Boy that is sad and odd. Ooo and those emails you got -- ouch!! Kind of makes me wonder where those ppl were coming from in THEIR weekly loss, too.
This is about real life people. That is why it is inspiring to me; my life & WL journey is real too.
Thanks for sticking around, Lyn, even when you get less than supportive emails & comments. And good job for continuing to chip away and not give up!
Chrissy

Paula Rodriguez said...

Lynn,

I kept reading you when you were up and down because you were just like me. You made me feel like I wasn't alone. I admired the way you were working out your issues and I learned from them. Sometimes, it feels like you're doing all the work and I reap the benefits.

I know some blogs are more successful because they're actually losing weight and being successful. I've been on this plateu for ever but like you... I'm not giving up. It's not an option.

So glad you hung in there. This is for life. We're always going to battle the food beast...

You're always so honest. How can we not appreciate that?

paula

Anonymous said...

People actually emailed you those comments? Seriously? Meanwhile how much weight were they losing themselves? I know you are proud of yourself for getting back up again and again, that is the secret. I've learned a lot about the process from your blog.

PaulaM

Anonymous said...

totally true... please remember this when you come off of medifast. i've had incredibly valuable learning experiences with shorter-term-type diets, only to be discouraged when coming off of them meant a whole new period of readjustment/maintenance that i swear was harder than the actual short-term diet. doesn't mean it was a useless experience; doesn't mean it didn't help. if the same happens to you, i have no doubt you'll still take the positive from it. GOOD LUCK!

The Captain's Daughter said...

Good for you! Good for you for putting the doubters out of your mind, and for continuing despite their negativity.

You remind us that even when we stumble and even fall we are worthy of the kudos for at least doing what we can to improve where we are.

No one can do this for you, no one can set a time-table for your progress - it's all up to you. So I say poop on the people who bash you for not being able to stick to your plan 100% - After all, those that stopped reading you lacked the same follow-through they accused you of not having for yourself.

You are such an inspiration, whether the scale goes up or down... I'll be here to share your progress!

beerab said...

WOW. I can't believe people have the audacity to say those things to you. I mean really- are they perfect with their scales consistently going in a downward trend? I doubt it.

Good for you for brushing them off. I feel the same way sometimes, that I'm letting down those who read my blog (even if it's only like 5-10 people lol) because I go through lulls- my last was due to a change in medication, it made me gain at least 6 lbs till I realized it was the medication.

Anyways- I agree- we are here to cheer each other on- if someone doesn't want to read a blog anymore then just leave! Don't make a comment about it!

MissyMcM said...

Well said! I go to Weight Watchers. We have a wonderful leader. When someone comes back, she just welcomes them at their new starting place. After achieving lifetime, I "thought" I had it all together...not even close. I am more inspirational when I am struggling than when I am successful. You are too! Keep blogging and I will keep reading.

Cindy said...

wow, people are really f'ed up!

Spaghetti Cat said...

so so so true! While I agree seeing numbers drop is amazing, as someone who blogs myself, seeing those "real person" struggles, that losing weight is hard, and people sticking in there, even gaining weight but they are still around, helps me feel like "I am a person too" even when my journey seems to be going the wrong way on the scale.
But you know? All those mistakes, I learn more and more about myself. Getting used to being at a lower weight, helps! It sounds stupid when you say wow i cant handle the scale going down so much, but sometimes mentally its just hard. Persoanlly I am struggling at the moment. But I look back, and you know what? Yes i have regained *some* weight... But I have kept 30 off!! That is accomplishment.
I havent worked out in a while, but I just did some squats and crunches, THAT is accomplishment. I will be happier when clothes fit better, but what is the best is that I never ever gave up.

Yes I stumbled, so did you, we are always stumbling... life isnt all even cement. its continuing on, no matter what, making choices, trying, failing, succeeding and learning that are the most important!!

Claire said...

Have you ever seen that t-shirt that says "Mean People Suck?" It's hard to imagine someone who is struggling with their weight criticizing someone else who is also struggling. I think it comes from a place of fear, that criticism. They see you, doing so well for so long, and then they see you backslide, and they think "I might backslide! I might gain all this weight back." They attack out of fear. It's still not okay, it's just how I think it is.

It is hard to watch friends (even internet ones) struggle. It seems most do, at one time or another. We should be encouraging one another, not tearing down.

E. Claire said...

I completely understand you! I have been there and done that. Actually, I'm still there, still doing that. Just getting started, really. I've only ready a few entries thus far, but I have found it very inspiring and relatable.

I started a blog in hopes helping my currently thick self see the error of my ways, all laid out in front of me, not to receive catty emails from people who could never understand this struggle.

Don't listen to those people!! You are a strong, determined gal on the way to health and babedom!

Val said...

Am I really the first commenter?
You have fought valiantly indeed, Lyn, so try not to let anyone diminish your achievements...
I used to love to research the underlying meaning of names; strange that mine means "worthy" when a lot of the time I have struggled w/feelings of UNworthiness.

Nancy said...

Fantastic post... so true & just what I needed to hear as I struggle with my own weight loss journey. Thanks for sharing it! :-)

NewMe said...

I have been following your blog for about 18 months, through your ups and downs as well as my own.

What you say about valiance is so true. If we are trying hard to be healthy, to eat well and to move to the best of our abilities, I think that is true valiance.

I often wonder if I should go on blogging since I don't have a successful weight loss story to tell, but your post makes me feel like I have to keep on going. One day at a time, one healthy choice at a time.

Thank you, Lyn. You go girl!

Honib1 said...

did i miss something in the you must be human category.. we all struggle and are human and for someone to post an insensitive comment is absurd.. and ugly.. better to lose a reader like that who only is using you for inspiration because they lack the ability to have it on their own... screw them.. and bravo you... Keep going.. keep being and keep feeling!

Deanna - The Unnatural Mother said...

Well said as always! A friend of mine was upset with another friend of ours and said "she only there for me during the happy times in my life". It struck a chord because it's so much easier to applaud than it is to support. To support you have to dig deep, give a little of yourself, and possibly face a few of your own demons. the fact of the matter is that those comments did not stop you - you continued on, you believed in yourself and that's a true test and strength of character whether or not you lost the weight - that my friend, is the added bonus.

Susan said...

I love what you had to say. You're absolutely right, the valiance, the value, the growth is in the trying, in the process. You made it through that time and are seeing the value on the other side. It was the same for me. To my fiance it looked like I wasn't trying, when in fact every single day was a battle, a fight. Now that I made it past that and found something that works for me, I get all the kudos - and I deserve them. But I deserved them no less during the dark days.
Thank you so much for this post.

dajoker002 said...

Then there's the more or less quiet ones who keep reading because they're going through the same struggles. They're also relieved that they're not the only ones still "sticking with it" when the results don't show.

Traci said...

Wow, I really needed to hear that. How horrible that people would say that to you. We are not perfect people. And we can be an inspiration along our journey. I keep going between 60 to 64 pounds lost myself. I need that swift kick in the butt and am trying to achieve that this week.

rsobering said...

I don't usually leave comments, but have followed you for a long time.
So glad for your post today WTG!!!

Molly said...

Sweetie, I've got to tell you, it's BECAUSE you struggle and still persevere that I find you inspiring. It's people who go all crazy with unsustainable diets and off the wall food restrictions that no one can maintain longterm who annoy me. You have your ups and downs but you're not a quitter, and your approach says to me that you understand that this is a marathon, not a sprint. I've done the sprints, and all I've done is regained EVERYTHING from the spring, plus more. So you go girl, you are VERY inspiring to me!

Baby Stepping said...

It's too bad that people had to leave such negative comments. I find it inspiring to read when someone is struggling and how they handle it. It gives me hope to know someone struggled and prevailed!

Hugs,
Mary

Julie said...

This is so true!! I have struggled over the last year (ALOT) and gained weight back (ALOT), but I'm still clawing and digging and fighting and struggling, and trying to do what is right for me, and I believe in myself, that is ultimately what counts, not anyone else, OURSELVES!
Some people are just natural haters, and won't probably ever be happy! Personally, I would rather read a blog written by someone experiencing the same roller coaster ride I'm on and see that I am not alone in my struggles, instead of a blog by the perfect dieter who never falters and makes me feel that much worse about myself when I do!
Thanks for you insightful words, I may not comment to every post of yours, but I do read them!!

carol said...

I am so proud of you. Without your blog and the ups and downs you have been through I would never have tried as long as I have (to loose weight). I am still not having much success but because of you I am staying with it. I keep thinking where would I be now (eg how much heavier) if I had given up?
Thank you so much. Carol

Mollye said...

Thank you Lyn, I needed this more than you know. I'm struggling to start what I like to call the "2nd leg" of my weight loss goal and it's hard for me to focus sometimes. I felt like I was the only one who fights the "Binge" monster and I struggle a lot. Thanks for sharing your struggle because that's honest. Weight loss is not a fairy tale or like "The Biggest Loser". It's hard, it's exhausting and it's a battle. I appreciate you more than you know. Thank you.

Jane said...

I loved this post. Thanks for sticking up for those of us who struggle sometimes, but still believe in ourselves and others. This weight loss thing is tough, and often takes detours, but we can do it if we persevere. We are still the same person, whether we are losing, on a plateau, or gaining, and you never know what a positive effect a kind word of encouragement may have. It may make all the difference...

Fit B said...

I think you are an inspiration! The important thing is you do know what it takes to lose the weight and in the end you will succeed. Screw anyone who cannot realize that it takes time and even if you fall off the horse there is no reason you cannot get back up and finish the race!
I personally think its better when you lose the weight slowly because then you can appreciate the hard work it took to get there and this makes it less likely you will regain.
Keep up the good work! You are valiant and a hero to many!

Anonymous said...

Lyn - I am appalled that people would tell you that they're going to stop reading your blog and that you were no longer inspiring. If they felt that way, why not just go away. What was the point of telling you?

But they were wrong - The whole time you were struggling to lose more you were being OVERWHELMINGLY SUCCESSFUL at keeping the 64 pounds off. You were MAINTAINING a 64 pound loss! It was far harder to keep trying when you weren't seeing results. You were also building skills for the future, when the excitement of losing weight and seeing the scale go down won't be there and the 'exciting' thing will be seeing the scale say the same thing day after day.

I agree that the most important thing is not to give up. You never gave up. What a fantastic inspiration you are.

WebRover
3FC

A said...

I love reading your blog. I don't know if I have ever commented before but you are such and inspiration. I have been reading for about a year and I love that you never gave up, I think that is what inspires me the most. Thank you for this post because never giving up is what really matters.

Bonnie said...

You are a wonderful example of never giving up, sticking with it and being valiant. Thank you for your honesty!

Wendy said...

Whom ever said such a thing is dead WRONG! You are inspiring! I've been following you through those 20 pounds and your attitude of "try again" has kept me going. Thank you! Thank you for showing me that my ups and downs are normal and that I don't have to cave to the "monster in my head". I can think of nothing more successful than the person who stands up after a fall, brushes off and continues to push forward. Besides, you inspired me to begin blogging my own journey... ups and downs included. You are a hero!

Chris said...

People are really presumptuous! I'm a new reader to your blog, and I'd much rather read about an honest struggle than pretty sunshiny posts all the time, because if, like me, you are a large person and want to get/stay thin, you will struggle, and the struggles will keep coming back. You really inspire me! So there!

Crys said...

Blogging has been entirely therapeutic for me. When I started it, I had no idea anyone would read it (and for a long time) no one did. It was MY journey. MY body. MY blog. But then you get to this place where you're making bad decisions and you're hiding from your readers. It's a delicate balance. You want to be able to share your successes and failures. You want a safe haven to just scream things that you can't say in "real life"... but then you've got to remember that balance.

If anyone is inspired by anything I do, I'm grateful. God is using me for a purpose. But everyday I have to remind myself that the only person I'm obligated to inspire and motivate is myself. She's the only person I worry about failing.

Lisa said...

Geez. Amen to that. Thanks for making me feel better about my failures today. Even when you were struggling, I love that you were honest which we ALL need to be doing. Wtg and keep it up. I have hit such a low lately and don't care if people want to read about it or not. i just have to be real and honest in order to face myself in the mirror.

Deniz said...

My dear. You have ALWAYS been an inspiration and at your most inspiring when you get knocked back but get up, dust yourself off and keep on going.

You are right - this whole weight game is a struggle and it doesn't stop, even when the weight comes off. Yep, valiant is the word to use.

Anonymous said...

Valiance and vigilance -- you just never give up. In times where you were struggling, you just kept on posting about it and you got through it. It would have been so easy to stop posting, but no: you documented the difficult times as well as the triumphs. Kept weighing in, kept posting weight. Really inspirational for someone like me, who slips a bit and doesn't weigh in for a day or so, which turns into a week, turns into two weeks, turns into months and months and pounds and pounds.

I'm so thrilled with your progress, which you so richly deserve -- kudos!

Arabella

MB said...

I've never stopped reading a blog because the person was struggling and not losing weight, that's just when they need support the most. I spent the first 2+ years of my blog losing and gaining the same 10-20 pounds and only recently started making real progress. The plateaus and the struggles are when we learn how to get through to the other side.

You've inspired me no matter what was happening on the scale.

Anonymous said...

You are 100% right on this post. Persistence is a big part of winning the war. You are and were inspirational. I am not brave enough to put all my battles out there for the world to see. You are to be commended for doing this.

I am sure that you will have more hard times. All of us with this struggle do. I am confident that you will keep going through any hard times and win this war!

Happy Fun Pants said...

I got my first email that said the same stuff - and people have decidedly dropped off my followers list.

And part of me gets that...when you're so hungry for inspiration that you can't look at other people's struggles.

I get that.

But I'm where you were 12-18 months ago. I'm struggling. And the thing is, I *KNOW* that I can do this...I just can't get it all together right now.

So I'm trying.

And I'm not giving up.

But it's tough.

Thank you for persevering in your own journey...and for believing in me. I appreciate your support a lot.

Anonymous said...

I just stumbled onto your blog for the first time so I haven't read your past posts... I am floored that people would actually e-mail you and say they are giving up on you because you are struggling with something we are all going to struggle with for the rest of our lives. What kind people do that?

Putting yourself out there on the internet and sharing your struggle, your experiences, your successes AND your failures is brave thing in itself. The fact that you haven't given up is inspirational to me.
~ Inspired Out West

murta said...

Your persistance is the exact reason to why I kept reading and to why I kept picking myself back up again. Brave and valiant. Thank you.

-Svava

Wendy said...

You go girl! I am struggling with regaining what I've lost and to see this post is inspirational. You're doing great and I hope to follow in your footsteps ... or jeans! You give me hope.

Anonymous said...

I can't believe nobody has commented yet on this great entry. You go girl! I myself have been in a rut and I do find your blog inspiring...even the entries that don't have direct measureable success. Keep doing it.

Tamzin said...

Thank you Lyn, that is where I am right now. I keep falling down... but struggling to stand again.

:)

Mrs. Thighs said...

I can't believe that people would say that! The fact that you kept going, even when times got tough, proves that you've got guts -- at any weight!