Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Adopt-A-Blogger Day

This weight loss business it tough. It can be lonely. Sometimes we can feel like we are all alone in our struggles... but the blogging community can be SUCH a source of strength! The support we can get from each other by blogging and commenting can make an otherwise long and sometimes difficult journey seem more pleasant. Who doesn't like getting comments and feedback on their blog? (I guess people who make their blogs private, right??)

There are so many little blogs popping up every day, started by people who are making the effort to change their lives and get healthy. Some folks go to real-life meetings, like Weight Watchers or Overeaters Anonymous, while others (like myself) look to the Internet for camaraderie. You can form real friendships through blogging, but it can be hard to get started, and tough to know just *how* to begin forming relationships that are supportive and beneficial.

When my blogging friend Bethany passed away earlier this year at the tender age of 33, I was struck by how many people had kind words for her and her family. I wished we (myself included) had been *more* of a support to her on her journey while she was still living. And I thought about how my father lived by the saying, "don't bring masses of flowers to me at my funeral and my grave, but bring them to me while I yet live, so I may partake in their beauty and fragrance with you."

And so the Bethany McDonald Memorial Blogroll was born. I wanted a place where bloggers old and new could find each other and give and get support. And I hope it has given that to some of you. But I can't help but notice how many blogs there still are with few or no comments, or who have not blogged in weeks. I try to get around and be supportive but there is no way I can keep up with everyone; that's where you all come in. There is someone out there feeling down and lonely, teetering on the brink of giving up. You could be the difference for them. You can be the light in someone's day.

And so I am asking that you participate in adopting a blogger today. All you have to do is head over to the Memorial Blogroll, browse through some of the blogs there, and pick someone you relate to a bit and think could use your friendship. Just go to their blog, read a few posts, and leave a comment or two in support. Then save them in your favorites and commit to yourself that you will keep up with that ONE blogger, at least once or twice a week, and get to know them through their blog and leave them some kind words each week. It only takes a few minutes a week to do this and could mean the world to someone! Odds are, the blogger you adopt will come back to *your* blog and leave you support, too! And you might form a lasting friendship. Believe it or not, one of my very best friends is someone I've never met in person but met online a couple of years ago (*waves to Karen*). My life would be emptier without her! And there are bloggers who have been right there reading me from the time I began with only 1 or 2 comments here and there... and they are very dear to my heart! You can form a meaningful friendship, giving and getting much needed support, just by being kind and offering friendship through blogging. Who knows, you might even save a life.

Please go and check out the blogroll. Share it with your blogging friends. Link it on your blog if you like. If you'd like your (weight loss related, non commercial) blog added, just leave me a comment here or drop me an email. I try to add people within a week of their requests. If you asked before and your blog is NOT listed on the blogroll, please ask again! I think I got everybody but if I missed anyone I apologise. I'll add you asap! I hope you will find a blogger or two on the blogroll who you think you can befriend, and I sincerely hope that lasting friendships are formed via the blogroll. Believe me, you will get back more than what you give out. Kindness is contagious! Good things will come back to you.

*p.s... the blogroll updates automatically and blogs are in the order of most recent posts, so scroll down near the bottom of the page to see blogs that have not been posting in awhile. Maybe they need some extra encouragement! Let's get every blogger some support :)

51 comments:

Lori said...

I love blog reading. It has become my 'transfer addiction', now that I can no longer use food!
Lori

Grace said...

How does someone go about getting on the blogroll? I've been blogging for 5 months now, and have little to no followers. I would love the support on my weight loss journey.

Gina said...

I would also love to be on the Blog-Roll. I'm trying hard but could definitely use the encouragement. Going to go surf some of these tonight when I get home! :O)
-Gina

kathyj333 said...

Thank you foe sharing the blogroll. I've added a few to my reading list.

Spaghetti Cat said...

Wonderful idea. I recently made a new blog (and have already gotten support from Bethany's Blogroll) and it really does make a difference.

I have always been too private to have a public blog, but now that I have one that is more anonymous I LOVE having it, love giving and getting the support. Thank you for the reminder lyn!

Teale said...

What a great idea! I'm heading over right now to find some people!

Teale said...

Oh, and I'd like to be added to the blogroll as well. I thought I had requested in the past, but I may have forgotten, and I looked through real good & didn't see myself on there!

Mom to the Fourth Power said...

Thanks! What a great idea. I just added that to my blog list. Please add me to the list of blogs, thank you!
~Margene

http://believingitspossible.blogspot.com/

Al (losingharry) said...

I sent you an email about being on the roll.

The International Loser said...

I would love to be on blogroll. I've met a few of my close friends through my personal blog and think that this is a great idea. I'm new to the weight loss blogging but one can never give or get enough support! my blog is http://international-loser.blogspot.com/

Meredith said...

This is amazing. Thank you.

Shelley said...

Heading over there right now - you are sweet to do this, Lyn.

Thunder Thigh Bride said...

I'm on my way to check it out!
Could you add me to blogroll please? Thanks so much Lyn!
www.thunder-thigh-bride.blogspot.com

Lori said...

add me, please
http://deepdarkweightloss.blogspot.com/

✯FiTCETERA✯ said...

Lyn, this IS a great idea! ♡

Susans Journey To Stay Fit said...

Great idea Lynn! I already have the blog roll saved in my favorites, and could you add me too?
http://susansjourneytokeepfit.blogspot.com/
Thanks for doing this for our communtiy.

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Christie said...

Fantastic idea! I would love to be added to the list too please, Lyn! If anyone is interested in following a UK based blogger trying to get to grips with healthy eating and regular dog walking as exercise, do come over and say hi :-)
http://womanwithalifetolive.blogspot.com

Joanna said...

I'm heading over - I'm going to see if I can find someone with a similar amount to lose as me.

I've started blogging - haha one measly post - but if I get it together I'll ask you to add mine eventually too.

Cheers Lyn. You rock.

Anini said...

This is great Lynn. I have found a few people before from this fantastic tribute and I'm heading over to pick out a few more. May I be added as well? Thanks

Blubeari said...

I would love to be included.

http://imshrinkingblubeari.blogspot.com/

Thank you

Anonymous said...

This is such a beautiful sentiment. I cannot bring myself to write a blog of my own. I'm a very private person, a little bit paranoid, and shy. But I love to pop in and comment as "Anonymous", and give encouragement and support when it is heartfelt. (I hate the mean "anonymous" people. They give the rest of us a bad name. LOL. But they are probably just unhappy inside.)

I also take great encouragement from following the ups and downs of the brave bloggers who put themselves out there, including those like you, Lyn, who prefer to remain anonymous in your own way.

Hooray for us all!

Chris said...

Great idea! I have added a few of the blogs to my reading list. Would you please add me to the blog roll? http://christinawardell.blogspot.com/

Thanks!

Taryl said...

Done! Hopefully the blogger will update, it has been awhile, but I do definitely feel for some of the struggles she has posted about :(

amoslionhorse said...

what a fabulous idea, Lyn, and such a wonderful way to remember your friend.

I will check it out. (hugs)

FrogiNater said...

Awesome-- will check it out when I get back home later. I know I could use a friend, who can't?! Easier to get through this with someone who gets it.

Trixie said...

I'm really glad you started this blog roll, I've found several great blogs but am guilty of not leaving comments very often.

Farsy said...

I'd love to be on the blogroll. I have a handfull of followers but rarely, if ever, get comments and could really use some support now that my life has gone bonkers.

farsination.blogspot.com thanks.

Jennifer said...

I too would like to be part of the blogroll ... much needed support!

http://jennysway.blogspot.com/ if possible ...

Mad Woman said...

What a fantastic way to remember your friend! I'd love to be listed on the blog as well.

http://lookingforfeet.blogspot.com

I'm heading over there now to adopt me some more bloggers! Thank you!

~ChubbyMommy said...

On my way to check out the blogroll!

spunkysuzi said...

What a great idea :) I'm on my way over there!!

Pencil Skirt Bound said...

Hi Lyn,

I clicked on Bethany's blog before reading the rest of your entry. I was so saddened for her and her family. I continued to read her words and just felt an ache in my heart. Just in March did she write about struggling and being angry and scared with the scale. Goodness, I sure have felt that way. I've been scared of it too wondering if I did enough or did too much!

Bethany wrote about going to Subway and eating too much and darn it, I sure have gone through that and kicked myself for my mistake. I'm in 30's and dealing with weight and even though I am not married nor have kids, Bethany and I often felt the same.

Life seems so long and sometimes it feels like drudgery but then I read a stranger's blog and she writes about her day as if she has another tomorrow and I guess what I mean to say is we never know if we have one. I said a little prayer for her and her family and for you Lyn for your loss of your friend.

http://pencilskirtbound.blogspot.com/

~Cariann

Nicole said...

Hi Lyn. Love this idea! I'd love to have my blog added to the blogroll. Thanks so much!

http://gettingtoknowtherealnicole.blogspot.com

Deniz said...

Lovely idea. Followed your advice and am pleased you suggested it. What a star you are Lyn.

Annie said...

What a great idea! I would love to be added to the blog roll.

Thanks!
Annie

Momma Hunt said...

Just went and checked it out and am going to be posting away after I feed the baby. I would love to hav e my blog added.

http://me-mommyetc.blogspot.com/

Debbie said...

I love blogging and really enjoy the ones that I follow. I am going to check out the blogroll. Have a great day.. :)

Julia said...

Great idea :)
Would love to be added to the blogroll.

http://juliasjourney-finallygettingfit.blogspot.com/
Thanks

Anonymous said...

I took your advice the first time and started reading from your list. I love A Deliberate Life and read it every day. Now that is a woman who doesn't make excuses for herself, she just went out and did it. Whenever I'm feeling down I read her blog and feel better. She is tough as nails, that's how I want to be, not telling myself oh it's ok to eat just one piece of ________.

PaulaM

Kelliann said...

I love your blog and I love that you have done this for other bloggers. I am really looking forward to checking them out and hoping maybe someone will "adopt" me too! :-)

Sylvia said...

I just found your blog and I'm so glad I did. Reading about Bethany and what happened to her has me devastated. Life is so precious and you never know when your time will come. I'm linking to the blog roll and will adopt a blog or two!

screwdestiny said...

What a great idea, Lyn. I already follow quite a few blogs, but I suppose I could look for some new ones that are interesting and in need of support.

Bri said...

As a new blogger, I love this idea! Thank you Lyn for everything you do. I would love to be added to the blogroll as well:

http://journeyinword.blogspot.com/

Sharon said...

What a great idea. I have been reading your blog for some time, but just started my own last month. Please add mine to the blogroll. I have already chosen several to begin reading. Thanks again for your commitment to encouraging others.

Amy Jo said...

Hey Lyn! I'm just getting back into blogging, and I'd love to be added to the memorial blogroll. I don't really have any readers yet :( It's hard getting into the swing of things, and I would love to find an online community that can encourage me, and that I can in turn encourage.

Thanks for maintaining it - you're a blessing.

Deanna - The Unnatural Mother said...

Great Idea! Will do!

Deanna - The Unnatural Mother said...

Lyn, meant to mention, would you mind adding me to the blog roll? Thanks sweetie!

PurplePoizon said...

Please add me to the blogroll! Thank you, you are helping so many!

Salted with Shadows said...

I would love to be added Lyn. What a wonderful tribute to your friend.

http://www.saltedwithshadows.blogspot.com/

Lyn said...

Okay folks, I *think* everyone who has asked has been added up to today (June 6th). If I inadvertantly missed oyu please drop another comment or email and let me know. There are over 200 blogs on the blogroll now! So exciting and I hope you all get the support you desire!