Saturday, January 2, 2010

The Last Day One

Still thinking about those folks out there who are giving it one last hurrah this weekend before diving into a new diet on Monday. Some folks like to start on New Year's Day, but I know others who play the Monday-Is-Day-One game with themselves (as I used to) and are out there wolfing down pizza and candy bars and all the other foods you think you can "never have again" because "tomorrow I am changing my life." The painful thing is, I did that SO MANY times that I'd have been better off never even *having* a Day One at all (until I really, truly meant it). I'd consume upwards of 5,000 calories a day on the few days before a Day One, because I wanted to eat and taste and enjoy all the foods I wouldn't be having once I started The Diet. Yet The Diet would usually last less than a week, and so I'd spend the following three-day weekend binge eating and gearing up for the next Monday, which was... you guessed it... the new Day One.

I don't judge those people. I know it's hard, and confusing, and feels like insanity. I know it's difficult to find a starting point and stick with it. I really do know. But I want to say that it is so much easier to just do the best you can each day, forget about the calendar and the firsts and the Mondays and just do your best and if you overeat, you overeat and then just keep on going with the healthy eating the best you can.

I've talked before about how all it takes is a split second to be in control, really (or out of control). The instant you put that bag of Cheetos in your cart at Walmart is a split second decision pushing you in the wrong direction, but if, at ANY moment during the rest of your shopping trip, you have a split second of sanity and realize those Cheetos should not be in your cart, then all it takes is literally an INSTANT to grab the bag, stick it on a shelf and walk away. That's it. Decision made. Action taken. No arguing with yourself, no agonizing, no thinking. Just stick them somewhere and go. Same with those leftover Christmas goodies in your house. If you are still eating them and regretting it, it only takes a split second of control to turn things around by grabbing them and mashing them into the trash and covering them with garbage or salt or ketchup or whatever. That's all it takes. When the truffles I got as a gift for Christmas were bugging me, I wanted to eat them. But as I was taking one out of the box, I had a split second of clarity and grabbed a huge handful and ran to the kitchen sink, turned on the hot water and held the truffles under the faucet. It felt ridiculous... chocolate oozing all over my hands, making a mess, and then putting dish soap on the remains to get them down the drain... but it feels a lot less ridiculous to do that than to shove them in my face and watch my body grow new fat rolls.

Grab your split second. That's all it takes.

Grab on and get healthy NOW. And if you do feel the need to wait until Monday, at least make it your last Day One... EVER.

28 comments:

~ChubbyMommy said...

Love this post...it's one of those "print and keep" posts! Some how, Monday never seemed to come for me, or i would wait till "next" Monday.

I finally just made the decision to start...and get rid of the things that i knew shouldn't be near me.

Stormy Vawn Bradley said...

I am so guilty of this. The time is now...then.. and tomorrow for me. Each decision is either in the direction of health and wellness. Or it is is in the direction in disease and obesity.

Estela said...

Yesterday I had weak moments in the store. Came home with a pkg of vanilla almond bark, a box of Fiddle Faddle and a Christmas tube of mini reeses p.b. cups. I scraped off a bit of the almond bark, ate 3 chunks of Fiddle Faddle and immediately HATED myself!

I called my nephews over and gave them the p.b. cups and fiddle faddle. The almond bark was scattered over the back yard.

I haven't been planning, and I have to remind myself that if I fail to plan, I plan to fail...

Estela in South TX

Diana said...

Oh my gosh Lyn, have you been reading the book "The end to overeating."?

He has a section in there that talks about control and how we have a moment of control where we can make the decision to eat something unhealthy for us or not eat it. We have to grab that moment and make the right decision.

This was a real eye opener for me. I know it sounds like common sense, but it really wasn't for me.

And the truffles ... too funny. New Year's Eve after I'd had two glasses of champagne I had a great desire for Oatmeal cookies. I baked four dozen cookies. They were Paula Deen's iced loaded oatmeal cookies. To die for. I ate four cookies. After my buzz wore off from the champagne and at 1am I took all four dozen cookies and put them down the garbage disposal.

When my husband asked for them the next day I told him I hid them. He didn't say a word. :)

screwdestiny said...

Wasting truffles? Blasphemy! No, but really, that was a smart thing to do.

Julie said...

thanks for the heads-up. i will remember the split second decision. if i can do that, it is an excellent start! thanks once again lyn.

Tara said...

Hi Lyn,

I have been reading parts of your blog and now have a blog of my own - of course fumbling through it all and getting familiar with it...but thats not why I am writing. I think that u r spot on with this post and I have so often been guilty of starting the proverbial DAY 1 - this time although the new start coincided with the first day of the year, interestingly it was also the weekend and I realised that it has become more important for me to make my own start and not wait for the day, time or the beginning of the week to make my beginning.
Your blog is really inspirational.

All the best
Tara

http://dietadventures-currymunchin.blogspot.com/

The Shrinking Violet said...

Well done on the truffle moment! Who would buy someone on a weight loss programme truffles? crazy!

KatDoesDiets said...

Very encouraging post. I've been seeing a lot of those: starting the 1st...starting Monday...starting...around different social sites I'm on. I so feel for them.
The moment of clarity part really resonated with me. Last night I was beyond craving peanut butter cup ice cream. Was seriously, sadly close to slipping...then I thought, oh...I'll go try on my skinny jeans. Huge moment of clarity there, gee, they still don't fit, no ice cream for me. I wasn't hungry, didn't need it. A little perspective goes a long way, lol.
Thanks for your post.

M said...

Looking back...I hate to say I kind of understand the last couple of posts....HOWEVER, you are so right on the spot with the split second decision making skills...I think of it often and it keeps me going strong!...true words, thanks!

Vickie said...

very true, well written, timely.

What a Splurge said...

This post spoke to me. I gained many pounds waiting for Day 1 until I really meant it. I really like the concept of the split second. Along those lines, I think now "If not now, when?"

Hanlie said...

I'm one of those Monday people this time around, for the simple reason that we've only just come back from a vacation where there was not a fresh thing within 200 miles... and then I had family get-together today. But I only had one helping! And from tomorrow it's definitely business as usual for me.

All the best for 2010, Lyn!

Thrice Blessed said...

Great post, the best time to make any decision is NOW... even if you're in the middle of an eating binge and have "blown it for the day" already, you can minimize the damage by stopping now (easier said than done, but still possible), you might not be able to make a calorie goal for the day if you've already "blown it", but you can decide, "Okay, I'm stopping... and for the rest of the day, I will not eat unless my stomach growls, telling me I'm truly hungry, and when that happens, I will eat something healthy, something real".

I've had far too many "Day Ones" and far too many "tomorrows" the only day, the only moment you are guaranteed is RIGHT NOW. So even if you feel like its too late to see a result, live RIGHT NOW with integrity, including in your eating habits!

Looks like I should have turned this into my own blog entry!

Anonymous said...

Great post. I finally learned the lesson of not having a day one or the starting on Monday syndrome this year. It was liberating. The change in mindset changed my outcomes and I think I am finally on the path to a long term sane relationship with food. It`s not perfect, but much better than it has been in a long while - I actually don`t dread Mondays anymore :) Thanks for the reinforcement.

nancy said...

Great post. Ignore the few that are so off base. I too had many day ones for the begining of a new year, or mondays, or a new month, before summer comes. Honestly none of those times worked until I was ready to make it happen. I had so many uhuhmoments when I was given so many 'treat' (truffles too) as my gifties from school. Although most didn't know me when I was at my highest (354) I guess they saw me as thin and never having a weight problem. I need to get in check and back on the road after a bumpy two week vacation. A valuable lesson was learned during this season.

Annie said...

Lyn, I COMPLETELY relate to your binge eating. I have been doing it for years and am probably in the worst physical shape of my life. Been doing ok for 3 days now, taking one at a time. Unless your next door neighbor is literally starving you did the right thing with the truffles & cookies. Have a Happy New Year. Here's to us both being under 200 by the 4th of July!!!

Losing 100 said...

Lyn! Awesome post! I can't tell you how many times I have done this. I think I am finally getting past the eat before I stop eating thing. I love your story about the truffles. Good Job.

Kyle Gershman said...

Wonderful insights...

Ms. PJ Geek said...

Lyn, I read your post and connected to it in many ways and then read the comments..and said what?! I read your post again.
I hear hope and encouragement and self reflection and acceptance. The reality is many of us go through this day to day.I look at the New Year as hitting a reset button..continuing what I'm working on but being open to changing itand looking to new tools and methods.

Sometimes it's a moment to moment thing. Yes , I just actually happened to go to Walmart last night. I paused and checked out the cheddar Gold fish. I eyed the candy in the check out aisle. I was really hungry and knew I was going home to heat up the left-over healthy, portioned meal. But I'd wanted nuts for healthy snacks. They didn't have the healthy cinnamon flavored almonds I wanted, so I chose cinnamon pecans instead. I opened them on the way home and told myself I'd just eat 1 oz which was probably about 7. I measured them when I got home. I ended up eating 14..so that was about 320 calories I'd not planned on . I had my husband put them up where I can't get to them , because I want to enjoy them in healthy portions. Today, I'm willing to work on cautiously having them in my house , just not in sight or easy reach. I just didn't prepare for them correctly. I dumped chocolate after Christmas, Gave Chocolate away, Still have some putup and out of sight for when I can handle them.

For me, complete all or nothing doesn't work. That all or nothing may be binging on the weekend with the plan for Monday strictness or it may be abstinance from certain foods. I've got to find balance. Thanks for blogging.

Lyn said...

Ms PJ Geek~

Thank you. That *is* the intent of my post. I am glad you and many others understand that! We're all in this together, just trying to get healthy.

I did delete some negative anonymous comments from this thread, because this blog is not a forum for debate, nastiness, and general negativity. Anyone who has a concern about something I have written is always free to email me for discussion. :)

spunkysuzi said...

Love this post Lyn and it applies to many of us!!

skinnyhollie said...

I think every day is my "day one"... I no longer want to hold out for Monday, or Jan 1, or whatever. The amount of calories I can consume until then is insane, lol.

Great post, lyn!

The Brown Recluse said...

Oh, the Day One's I've had...or more to the point, the binges before Day One. There were times Day One never materialized, but the binge certainly continued.
Very good post. I love reading your blog because you KNOW.

Barefoot Pixie said...

YES! That is exactly how I feel and why I still know I am in this for the long haul even though I'm doing it very imperfectly. I still have those split seconds and even a few that last for minutes and a couple that have lasted for hours. LOL. It feels SO GOOD to take those steps and make it real!

Anonymous said...

Hi Lyn,
I believe it was my comment you deleted. I didn't mean it to be negative about your dieting. But I do think it's important to point out that it's wasteful to throw food out.
There are plenty of people who would be happy to have the box of truffles you destroyed, or the two dozen cookies Diana threw in the garbage.
Is telling you to donate your unwanted junk food to a shelter so terrible that that idea has to be erased?

Lyn said...

Anonymous~

Thanks for re-posting your idea in a less angry/attacking tone. I really care about the people who read my blog, and who also read the comments, and I think your previous comment might have been detrimental to some who are struggling very hard to gain control of their lives and don't need the whole guilt trip about throwing food away. It goes back to the whole diatribe by the parents of "Clean your plate! There are children starving in Africa!"

I've addressed this issue before on my blog and am going to make it a FAQ post so others can see WHY I do not feel guilty throwing away a candy bar, but in general, my philosphy is that it is MORE wasteful to put that kind of food in my body than it is to throw it out. And sometimes, when you have problems with compulsive eating, the choice is A) eat it or B)throw it out. If I had the self control to never try a bite of candy, or to set it aside and drive it to some food bank, I'd do that. However, the shelters and food banks here do not take anything that is already open OR home-made. I can go into my reasons more in a post, but basically yes, I WILL throw out junk food if I need to, to keep myself from eating it, and that is a GOOD thing, not something to feel bad about.

Anonymous said...

Hi Lyn,
Thanks for posting my comment. Sorry if my first one sounded offensive. I just wanted to put a word in for people who are less fortunate.

And sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I appreciate it.

I guess, if you don't a problem with eating, it's hard to imagine. Our extra XMas cookies and candies lasted almost a month at our house!

Maybe your throwing food is like an alcoholic throwing the liquor down the drain, or a smoker wetting his cigarettes. We don't look down on those people for "waste."

Good luck with your journey.