Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Motivation

For the last couple of days, I've been eating a little more and not exercising because I've been sick. I try to eat according to appetite (i.e., listening to my body) within a range of 1200-1700 calories per day. And I try to exercise for 30 minutes a day, 6 days a week. I did stay within my calorie range, but didn't exercise, and with all the higher carb, saltier types of foods I was eating and the tons of water I continued to drink, I wondered if I might have a bit of a gain on the scale. But, ya know, just the other day I was saying how happy I am to be in the 220's and how seeing 227 on the scale was just fine with me. I've been in a mindset of being really okay with a bit of a plateau for a week or two if need be.

So this morning I got on the scale expecting another 227, but instead got 225! Wha??? I got on and off a couple of times but indeed I now weigh 225. I'll take it! A whoosh is always nice.

The last time I weighed 225 was on 4/8/09... eight months ago. And the last time I weighed 224? 12/15/08... almost a year ago. Wow. I really am thrilled!

I'm almost over my flu/cold/whatever it was, but still have a headache. It is really cold outside but I have some shopping to do and errands to run, and I plan to take a 10 or 15 minute walk in the sunshine (just until I am too cold to be comfortable). I'll also bike for 30 minutes tonight.

One of my usually wonderful, almost-adult kids is giving me major amounts of stress right now. MAJOR. One thing he is teaching me is that if one is not motivated to do a particular thing, no amount of consequences will budge you. Being too fat to walk, hurting whenever you move, acid reflux, heart palpitations, acne, fatigue, clothes not fitting, pants having holes worn between the thighs, busting out in fat rolls all over, seclusion, inability to fit in chairs... all of those things might *seem* like they would force someone to lose weight, but if a person is not motivated FROM WITHIN, they will keep on plugging along, eating what they want, not changing, even with all of those embarrassments and discomforts. A vague desire to "be thin" is not motivation. You might *want* to be thin but unless you are motivated and determined to do the work to get there, you'll just sit suffering and miserable and blaming everyone and everything else and not make any changes. The desire to change has to come from within.

My kid isn't fat, but that is what he has taught me with the *other* issues he is going through right now. And no matter what consequences I impose or what effects come naturally to him because of his behaviors, he will not change until he is motivated to do so from within. And neither will you.

Nurture your motivation, people. It's the only way you'll get to your goals. Motivation, determination, and just plain commitment.

23 comments:

Vickie said...

a lot of motherhood is our ego left at the door and hands in our pockets so they learn to stand on their own feet. Standing by so that they don't crash with TOO BAD of consequences. I think it takes about as much to mother an 18-20 year old than it did when that same child was 2-3. It is just different skill sets.

(mine are 11,15,19 right now and all getting ready to turn 12, 16, 20 as the birthdays roll in right after the new year)

Megan said...

Congrats on your weight loss! Having that inner drive of motivation IS the key to taking it off and keeping it off! Have a great rest of the day :-)

Jack Sh*t, Gettin' Fit said...

I found that I hit a tipping point with my weight loss, where my metabolism really shifted into high gear and my energy level got a huge boost. That translated into more effective and efficient workouts, which lead to even more success on the scales. Big mo, baby–you gotta love it!

Bethany said...

Hear, hear! So true, and my motivation is gone right now. I just posted on my blog last night about how frustrated I am that the consequences of being fat just don't seem to motivate me to lose it. Don't know what it will take to get me going again...
Bethany

Ironlady said...

You are absolutely correct about the motivation factor. Sometimes, the scare tactor works if it is someone like a doctor giving or showing you concrete proof that you are dying inside, but even that will not work for some people. The reasons are different for everyone and I'm sure that your son will come around in his own time.

BTW- Good job on the weight loss! Funny how it works sometimes, eh?

Tony the Pink Panda said...

Staying motivated is always the hardest part. The whooshes are always nice - they come when you least expect them.

Diane Fit to the Finish said...

I'm so glad that you got a great result on the scale. You are almost back to your December 08 weight! I know you are glad.

Motivation sometimes wanes but the fact that you are still working it is the important thing!

karen@fitnessjourney said...

The fact that you still care shows that the motivation is right near the surface. Sometimes I find that trying something new helps-I've tried new DVD's, joining a new gym and most recently, hiring a personal trainer. Having someone to push me has been a huge motivator. Knowing he will know if I haven't been working out between our sessions holds me accountable.

Have you tried working out with a trainer or even recruiting a friend to work out with you? The two of you can hold each other accountable.

Autumnforest said...

You made me smile. It's funny how women can rattle off their weight at any given year of their life. Kinda scary, huh? I keep motivated by a few things. The major one is occasionally carrying something really heavy around the house and realizing that I need to lose about twice that amount in weight to get where I want to be. No wonder I get breathless walking around--60 pounds is a lot of weight! I also work in the medical industry and I have to admit that there is absolutely no reason for me to have to take BP meds (most folks are on 2-3 at a time) or diabetes meds (most people take 2 at least). I'm not spending my middle aged and older years paying for meds, tons of doc appts, and lots of procedures. I'm spending the money to travel. That's my motivation :-)

The Phat Nanny said...

Just started my journey through weightloss and was looking for new bloggy friends and here you are! Thanks for the motivation! Keep up the good work!:-)

Tricia said...

Congrats!

kelly said...

FANTASTIC post! You are an amazing poster/writer. Congratulations on your loss!

South Beach Steve said...

There is hardly as sweet a sound as a whoosh!

Anonymous said...

Ahhhh children...mine had an addiction to video/online games (world of warcraft to be specific, and NO, we didn't pay for it!) Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, that we said or did made one whit of difference to him. He didn't finish high school, blew off all other educational opportunities and now he's cannon fodder in the military. At least he is paying his own way now. Sigh...

B

Me said...

Motivation is the key, indeed.
But motivation needs energy too, I have found out. You can be as motivated as they come, but if you just don't have the energy (and I mean really not having any left, even your substitute ones are empty) you can't do anything with your motivation. And you can't stick to whatever regime you put yourself on.
Luckily my energy is getting back now, so I can get back with my motivation.

By the way, congrats on your positive feelings! You're in a good headspace right now. Enjoy!

Deniz said...

225 is fantastic news! Well done, you - I'm sitting here cheering for you!

Keep on nurturing that firm motivation like you have been doing and just see what delights 2010 will bring for you.

Anonymous said...

"Nurture your motivation, people. It's the only way you'll get to your goals. Motivation, determination, and just plain commitment."

I agree completely Lyn (and I too have young adult children who drive me crazy sometimes!) All the lecturing in the world from me, about doing the right or sensible thing falls on deaf ears. For now their behaviour suits them - they can't see the consequences of their actions, nor do they have the ability to look into the future and see the downsides.

I think as I have gained weight over the years I have the ability to look back and appreciate that it's very easy to put it on but so much more difficult to lose it. Gaining weight requires no effort, losing it requires a BIG and determined effort.

I am guilty of not making much effort, or making half-hearted efforts...resenting the fact that I have to move and 'deprive' myself of the edible goodies that I love. My mind has to understand that my efforts...'my deprivation' isn't deprivation at all. I'll be loving myself more when I look after myself properly.

Old habits die hard. The misery that being fat causes has made me grumpy...grumpy in that I hate what I see when I look in mirrors. I have lost confidence, I don't like myself much and when I compare myself to smart women of a similar age, I feel a real loser! Ironically, I do want to be a loser...but a loser of weight!

You are right Lyn. Until you want a change and are determined to bring about change, things remain the same. I have a little Devil on my shoulder who tempts me to take the path of least resistance. I have to remove him and ensure he never sits there again. Only I can do this.

DBD xx

Ms. PJ Geek said...

I've commented before that as a nurse I should know better not to get to 345. I had a patient that had my same name, most of my same illnesses (obesity, diabetes, sleep apnea, hypertension) and was dying at 53. That one shook me up . She did die at a time when I was in the first phases of my journey. It is exactly as you say "motivation, determination, and just plain committment". I find myself struggling because I love food, associate food with comfort and good times and memories with family who are gone. I keep coming to blogs for ideas and motivation. I keep going to the gym . I'm trying to plan in treats so that I don't go over the edge and over indulge. Today at 237 I'm closer to what I weighed in 1993, but I'm always scared I could go back or that it isn't enough or that I won't be able to lose anymore weight. I'm stuck. I'm working it as best I can . Thanks as always for your insight and I know if helps me keep going .

Sue R said...

Bravo!

The Brown Recluse said...

I sure enough wish I could find motivation. I haven't so far. I love your no-nonsense approach to life, this blog, and weight loss. As far as I can see, you are "spot on" on the way to lose weight. Keep it up. You are inspiring me.
~Margaret

Ashley said...

This isn't really about motivation or weight loss, but I just wanted to tell you that I was a HUGE pain and an obnoxious brat to my parents the whole time I was a teenager and a young adult, and now I'm a reasonably well-adjusted 29-year-old person with a respectable job and life. In recent years I have thanked my parents for not killing me the countless times I deserved it, so eventually even the most obstinate teenagers do grow up.

Ria said...

Lyn, I am so happy for and proud of you! What a great autumn you've had.

I fell pretty far off the wagon during the past few months, but I'm back now . . . and as usual, I'm so grateful for the inspiration and wisdom on your blog.

moonduster said...

So true. I let myself stay twice the size I should have been for years and suffered most of the things you mentioned. But when I found that motivation from within (by doing the work and getting results even when I didn't feel motivated), I finally started making the right choices for the right reasons. I've now lost 127.5 lbs and I'm only 8 pounds away from a "healthy" BMI.

As for those "almost adult" teenagers, I know how you're feeling with that too, as I have some of those myself.

And yay for the 2 pounds more you lost!