Sunday, April 26, 2009

Busy Week Coming...

This is going to be a dynamic week... one way or the other.

This week, my husband is coming home again. If you've read this blog for long, you know some background on the husband (and if not, you can use the search box to find out). Anyway, I asked how long he was staying this time, as he generally comes when our daughter has a medical trip and then leaves again. He said, "this is a one-way ticket." I don't even know how to feel about this. On one hand, relieved. Is my two-year stint as a mostly-single-parent over? Will I actually get to shower for more than 5 minutes before having to run dripping wet through the living room chasing my toddler who decided that playing Legos in the bathroom while Mommy showered wasn't as fun as, say, putting Play Doh in the VCR? Will I get to rest when I am sick, take a walk without a kid on my leg, and cook vegetables for someone who doesn't say "yuck?" Wow, it seems like a dream!

But then I remember the bags of candy placed on my laptop, the case of Heath bars left in the bedroom, the nightly crunch-crunch-crunch of chips being eaten. It's not easy being married to a junk food junkie who thinks we can all eat whatever we want as long as we take a walk every day.

Well, it is what it is. I'll try and focus on the good, and see what comes of it. I'll be glad for the company. Maybe.

This week we are travelling several hours out of town to take my daughter for some medical testing and appointments. It's the testing that I've dreaded all year... the appointments that kept getting rescheduled since last summer for one reason or another. But lemme just ask for prayers for my daughter, because she is the one who may be suffering. All I want from this week is for her to be okay. That's all. I don't care about anything else. I just want my baby to be okay.

I don't generally get into my kids' medical issues on this blog, but I'll tell you this. She is having a VCUG (voiding cystourethrogram). She had one before, when she was under 2. It was absolutely horrible. Some kids tolerate them better than others, and some technicians are better than others (which is why we are driving almost 4 hours to get the test done THIS time). I am/have been a nervous wreck about this for so long. If all goes well on that trip, I will feel 100 pounds lighter by the week's end no matter what I really weigh. Hopefully this test will give good results and she won't need surgery. Please send good thoughts!

Our "extra" little girl won't be going on this trip with us, but she'll be living with us for most of May. So far there has been minimal jealousy between the two girls and nobody has had their eyes scratched out over My Little Ponies.

I hate to say that my weight is on the back burner right now, but it is. I spent the weekend getting out from under the suffocating piles of housework and clutter (and made good progress!) My focus for this week is the kids. My boys have some major homework and projects to get done and will miss a day or two of school for our medical trip, so I'll be helping them with that stuff as well as washing clothes and packing to leave. Between that and the husband stuff, the focus is just not going to be on weight. But the good news is, I won't have the time nor the privacy to binge. So I hope the simple balance will reward me with a maintain for the week.

Thanks for caring :)

33 comments:

Sara said...

sending strength and positive thoughts for you and your daughter xxx

Susan said...

Sending you both virtual hugs and best wishes.

fatty McButter Pants said...

How terrifying for you and her. That could really mess a little girl up. Can't they sedate her just a little, so she's not so scared. Poor little thing. I will remember you in my prayers. Good luck about your husband. I am happily single. Bringing a man into my world would really freak me out till I adjusted. Sending you good vibrations!

Joy said...

huge hugs Lyn, I know nothing makes it feel OK when all you want to do is cuddle your babies and make them well and you can't. (((for you))) I hope these tests are as easy on you both as the last ones were scary.

Anonymous said...

Lynn -
Thank goodness you are the equal of the task you face! My money is on you (and of course your daughter) May all of the good wishes of your bloggers give you silent support....
LynninRI

Shelley said...

Oh your poor daughter...and poor you for having to experience it right alongside her. Sending good thoughts your way - hopefully with the light sedation it will go much better than the last time.

Good luck with your husband - don't let his wacky eating undermine your healthy eating. I'll be thinking about you a lot this week!

PatriciaW said...

Don't know your faith but I'm saying prayers for you -- for your strength in the face of stress, emotionally and on this weightloss journey, your daughter's health, and your marriage

Theresa said...

Best wishes for a better test this time around. My daughter had this test done and they gave her that amnesia medicine that you inhale, if they have not mentioned it perhaps it might be an option for her too? (if she has to have this test yearly it might help that the anxiety is not there to compound the nerves). I'll be thinking about you. I really hope that things work out with you and your husband. Life is not easy with or without a mate. Big hugs to you.

farmwife said...

How awful. I remember how it was to hold my infant daughter down for them to draw blood....I can't imagine having to do it for that long through that kind of procedure.

Prayers and strength to both you and her.

spunkysuzi said...

What a nasty procedure for a child to go through. Not only her but you too!! "hugs" for both of you this week.

Ria said...

I hope the procedure is as painless as possible for your daughter, and that the news is good and you can take surgery off of your to-do list.

Good luck with your husband's return . . . again, I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way that the good outweighs the bad.

With all that you've got going on, maintaining is definitely a victory and I know you can do it.

Megan said...

Oh Lyn, That sounds so hard and stressfull. Don't have kids but can only imagine how difficult that will be for the both of you. I will certainly send out good thoughts for the both of you and since you don't have the time to think about your weight, I will put that out there too for you. I know you've been dreading this for a long time. Way to go taking care of your babies even when it feels so hard. Good luck
Megan

VeeGettingHealthy said...

I'll be thinking of you. I completely understand - my hubby had left a super-huge bag of gummy-bears here while he's gone (5 days a week, home on weekends). I made him take the gummy-bears yesterday. Be well. Be positive. Be yourself. Vee at www.veegetting healthy.blogspot.com

~TMcGee~ said...

Lyn, my heart goes out to you and many prayers are going up on your behalf.

Knitty said...

I also have a child with medical problems, and I know how her problems tend to push my weight-loss plans to the far, far back burner. As far as I'm concerned we're perfectly justified in taking a little break from obsessing about our own health to take care of our little ones. Best wishes to you and your girl... we're pulling for you.

jules4422 said...

Thinking positive thoughts and sending positive energy your way for the week!

Random Life Particle said...

Oh.. I just had tears in my eyes.. You have a very brave girl there. I have bladder problems and know what it means to have the catheter ..... LOTS OF HUGS AND KISSES FOR HER.. You may want to talk to them about giving her some kind of sedating medicine. That may help her relax. It is painful when you are ot relaxed..the pelvic floor muscles need to relax. Please check if the technician has lot of experience with kids.. I found older ones were more gentle than the younger less experienced ones.

bbubblyb said...

Hugs and prayers Lyn for you and your family. Hope everything goes ok for the girl.

antgirl said...

Hope your daughter is OK and that the test isn't too horrible. Sending you and her all my good thoughts and prayers.

beerab said...

Ouch sounds painful poor thing! :( my friend's daughter had to have on done as a child since she kept getting bladder infections.

I hope everything turns out well! I went through a phase with bladder infections and I took so many cranberry pills and drank so much cranberry juice- I hate that stuff now lol.

The Veg Next Door said...

You're a strong mommy and your daughter is strong. Warm wishes.

Ceres said...

Sending lots and lots of wishes and thoughts for you and your little girl. You are both strong, remember this. xx

Fat[free]Me said...

Hugs to you and your daughter - I hope it goes better than last time x

IRJessica said...

Lots of love and prayers going your way!!!!

My Sensei said...

I got a little teary eyed reading this post. I can only imagine how terrifying that experience was for your little girl. My thoughts and prayers will be with you as you prepare for the upcoming testing. Stay strong and all the best.

Bethany said...

Ahh, Lyn, I'm so sorry for your baby! I will keep her in my prayers. It's so hard to see our kids in pain and not be able to help. Please know you are all in my thoughts!
Bethany

Chubby Chick said...

Awww... I hope all goes well with your daughter! I can only imagine the stress you must be feeling! Hang in there!

Cold Spaghetti said...

Warm wishes to you and your little girl! I am so sorry that you both have to endure such a terrible ordeal... it sounds cruel for both of you!

Laurie said...

Lyn, You and your family are in my prayers now and forever,I pray Gods will be done in your marraige and that the Lord will provide peace for you and your little one during not only this procedure but all the days that lay ahead. I am blessed to have found your blog and be inspired by you!!

Laurie

Heather said...

hang in there! pretty soon the week will be over and this will all be behind you and you can just relax and lose that 100 pounds ;)

Ioanna said...

everything will be ok, everything will be ok, everything will be ok!

and remember kids are much much stronger than we think and she will probably forget the whole trip in due time..

be strong

Carolyn said...

my daughter was born with blockages in her ureter and we found out about it when she was one. She was very sick and was hospitalized for infection. She has had 3 surgereries to correct the problem the last one at 7 years old. She has had at least 5 VCUG's from the age of 1 till her last one at age 7. Yes, they are horrible. They are traumatic even.
The older they are the harder they fight it....
I know your pain and I pray it goes well!

Anonymous said...

You and your family will be in my thoughts, surrounded by light this week.

Marie