Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Fat Ain't Stupid

There is a common misconception out there that fat people are dumb about nutrition. People seem to think that we don't know that eating Twinkies is harmful to our health or that having Big Mac meals three times a week is making us gain weight. Sometimes, we even get this kind of feedback from doctors who assume that a) we don't know we are fat, and b) we are oblivious to WHY we are fat. While it may be true that many of us would benefit from a nutrition class, that's true just as much for normal-weight folks as it is for the obese. I am convinced that *most* obesity is not caused by a delusional belief that eating half a fried chicken and a tub of macaroni salad is a healthy meal. We eat those things for other reasons. For some, we use foods to stuff down our feelings. It's a maladaptive way of coping with emotions that are distressing to us. For others, we just LIKE the taste of junk, and once we get a bite we want to eat everything in sight. Maybe there is a physical component for some; food addiction is a real phenomenon. But whatever the reason, most of us are not fat because we are dumb.

I get comments and emails sometimes that speak to me in a condescending tone: "tsk tsk, you shouldn't have eaten that! You know better!" Do you think I need to be scolded? It doesn't help. When you send me a list of the foods I ate that I shouldn't have, do you think I am enlightened? "Oh my gosh! I never KNEW I should avoid potato chips and dip! Thanks SO MUCH for telling me!! I thought it was a health food!" While a lot of "advice" we fat people get is couched in a frame of "this is meant with love" or "someone needs to tell you," it never really helps. I know what foods are good for me and what foods are bad. I know how to lose weight. I have taken more nutrition classes than you could shake a chocolate pretzel rod at. No fat person wants the "food police" on their back; unless you are asked to police someone's intake, it usually isn't welcome.

Earlier this month I put together a new idea: a monthly calorie budget. The feedback I got on this method was mostly positive, but some, not so much. I don't expect everyone to believe it's going to work, but for me, so far it is working. I am losing weight. I will be posting my weight on the 15th of the month since that is the halfway point of my monthly budget. But as of today, I HAVE lost weight. But that's beside the point. I got several comments/emails telling me, basically, that I am stupid. "That can't possibly work! You're just looking for excuses to binge!" Uh... I do not need an excuse to binge. If I am going to binge, I just binge. I might fight it, but I never make excuses for it. I am trying to lose weight, here, not find a way to pig out while pretending to "diet." Then there is the deep concern of some readers that I am giving myself "permission to overeat without grasping the need to cut back to compensate on other days." I want permission to overeat but I don't grasp the cutting back later? Oh yeah. That was the whole point. I said to myself, "Oh boy! I have 48000 calories I can eat this month, YAY! So let me eat them all right now... I will eat a box of donuts and a cheesecake and let me throw in a couple of Big Macs with fries because after all, I have 48 THOUSAND calories I can eat! Let me at those peanut butter cups!" Um, no.

I've been watching video clips from the series, Ruby, online because I don't have cable. Ruby is a women who is super morbidly obese and trying to lose weight. In one clip, she said, "I really don't eat that much. I don't care what anyone thinks, it's true. I DON'T eat that much." Ruby weighs 500 pounds, and used to weigh 700 pounds. How can she say she doesn't eat that much? It takes a lot of calories to maintain that weight. Is she stupid?

She is not stupid. She has an eating disorder, and I will tell you how I know she is not lying when she says she does not eat that much. When I reported what I had eaten while in Chicago, I said I was surprised that it ended up being about 3000 calories per day. One commenter expressed disbelief and took it upon herself to scold me for my choices: "Were you REALLY surprised at how many calories it was? Come on..." Yes, I was surprised. Just like Ruby will be surprised when someone shows her how many calories she used to eat. Because while I was on that trip, I never ate until I was full. I always stopped myself from eating as much as I would have liked... as much as I would have a year ago. I easily ate about HALF the volume that I would have if I was not trying to lose weight. Just like Ruby. When you have gotten used to eating 5,000 calories a day or more, 3,000 really does not seem like "that much." I showed restraint. If I had not, I totally would have eaten 8,000 calories per day on that trip because, as I reported, I only ate 1/4 of my entree. I skipped the appetizers. I often chose water when I wanted soda. I ate a few BITES of dessert. I wanted donuts at the airport SO BAD but I didn't have any. So in my mind, my eating-disordered mind, I was expecting to go over my calories but not by THAT much. Not because I am stupid, mind you, but because I did not have the ability to add up and track my calories the entire time. I kept them on a notepad to add up at home. And now I am compensating for the indulgences. It was a choice I made, and honestly I am okay with it. Maybe YOU would have handled the situation differently, but that does not make my way wrong, or dumb.

I know some very intelligent people. Some of them are thin, some are fat. Never in my career have I seen a correlation between weight and intelligence. I graduated magna cum laude from a University with a bachelors of science within the past 5 years. I think I understand basic principles of weight loss. It's the implementation of the knowledge that is difficult.

So many people are obese and feel bad about it. They *want* to lose the weight but they "don't know how." Don't take this literally; they DO know they have to eat less, eat healthier, and move. That's the basics. A nutrition class might help, but all the food and fitness knowledge in the world will not make you lose weight. It has to come from within. When someone says they "don't know how" to lose weight, I think it's usually deeper than that. They don't know how they will get motivated... and stay motivated to do it. They don't know how they will cope with stress and emotions without the comfort of food. They don't know how they let themselves get into this mess in the first place, and they don't know how they will persevere for the months... perhaps years... it will take to get the weight off.

What we need is compassion. Support. Encouragement. We don't usually need more pointers on what *not* to eat, or food police shaming us into eating less.

I am so thankful for all the support I *do* get from this blog! I started this blog, not to write *to* anyone or *about* health, but to express my journey to health as it happens. I hope reading my struggles and successes encourages others to lose weight. My blog has changed somewhat in that I try and take the time to put some good information out there that will help others get out of the fat prison, because now that I am on my way to a normal weight, I feel such joy and relief that I want others to share in the success.

Today I ate breakfast and then jumped right on my recumbent exercise bike for a 30-minute ride. It took some convincing to get myself to do this, since I *just* rode for 30 minutes last night around 8pm... but I want to get in 30 minutes every day, and I have to do it when I CAN. After my ride, I went outside in the warm fall weather and spent an hour trimming trees. Oh man, what a workout!! I was drenched in sweat so I hopped in the shower, and then sat down to blog a bit. I feel GREAT. I feel alive. I am going to have lunch and lift weights and then start making a healthy dinner.

Be well. Start now. Keep going.


Niki said...

Lyn, I have been reading you blog for abut 2 months now but this is my first time commenting. I think weight loss is really about taking it one step at a time so I think even the fact that you made the effort to write down everything you ate while in Chicago was a huge step. You could have simply used the excuse that it was a weekend off from your diet, but instead you stayed accountable to yourself which is great, and to eat only 3000 calories a day when you have so many amazing foods around you is a great accomplishment, keep up the good work!

Tina said...

You and I share the same problems with food. I think you did a great job with your choices you made while you were away. You should be very proud. It's all about making good choices. That's why I agree so much with your monthly calorie budget. It's not as easy to use one slip up as an excuse to blow the whole rest of the day/week/month. I'm considering using it myself!

maggie said...

Thanks for the post - I can really relate to this. There's definitely that sentiment about overweight people & it's the implementation that's the difficult part, as you said.

Christine said...

You are doing great. I have to say that your blog has been such an inspiration to me.

Marshmallow said...

That was a blody fantastic post.

Marshmallow said...

[where blody = bloody, of course!]

Lady Bug said...

Lyn, thanks so much for the post! I have to say, when I read some of your posts, I am incredibly glad that I have such a boring blog that no one cares to comment. *laughs* It would drive me nuts to have people appointing themselves to 'educate' me about weight loss, without an invitation.

I started watching "Ruby" also, and really enjoy the show. I've been in the same kind of situation, not knowing that I was eating quite as many calories as I was. It's easy to pack on the pounds, not by eating a ton of food, but just eating junk. Now that I have increased the nutrition of my meals, I get to eat a LOT more food than I did while I was gaining weight.

I do wonder, do you think that folks talk to heroin addicts the same way? Or someone who has been an alcoholic for 20 years? A drug addict or an alcoholic can be told that they are dumb for making the choices that they do, but that doesn't mean that they aren't going to struggle and be in pain during detox. Some find it so difficult that they give up giving it up. That's sad, and I hate to ever see people so beaten down that they resign themselves to an early death- whether it is by drugs, alcohol, or even gluttony. Yeah, it sure doesn't make a person stupid, just because they struggle.

Anyway, I think that your monthly caloric budget is a good idea. If that works for you, great! Isn't that basically what the "flex points" thing with WW is about? (I've never done WW, but have read a little.) It sounds like a very similar way of thinking about food management.

Fitness Surfer said...

I’m guessing that the “tsk, tsk” didn’t come from some one who lost over 60lbs either. Ignorance isn’t always bliss. I’m new to your site today, and I know I could learn a lot from you. The most I’ve ever lost was 40lbs after having a baby. Either way, what ever your doing is working, and you’re site is now one of my favorite resources. Thank you.

Kelly said...

What an awesome blog I've just stumbled across! I linked to your site from mine, hope you don't mind!

Kelly in Ohio
My own blog:

I LOVE your blog!

Princess Dieter said...

I've seen 3 dietitians since my first visit to one in 1989. Every single one was impressed by how accurately I--in my head--calculated the calories on assorted photos of food plates that they showed me. They were surprised at how much I knew about carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins, minerals, salts, metabolic diseases, etc. I told them--I know nutrition. I need tips and strategies to control my insane hunger/appetite.

That is still my problem. When I eat a normal amoutn of food--what a skinny person would eat--I'm still hungry. !!!

I've taken chemistry courses, medical courses, nutrition, microbiology. I was accepted into the very competitive Bronx High School of Science. I go a full scholarship at age 18. My SAT scores put me in the top 2% in the country. I have two bachelor degrees. My IQ has variously been measured at 136, 137 and 138.

I am not stupid.

I am, however, an eating-disordered person.

Geniuses can be obsessive-compulsive and no one says they're dumb. Geniuses can be promiscuous and no one says they're ignorant. A genius can be an alcoholic and still get a Nobel Prize. Being compulsive, promiscuous, or substance addicted doesn't make people stupid. It makes them flawed or diseased or weak in ONE area, that's all.

But a smart woman can eat too much and be thought dumb.

It's not dumb. It's disordered eating, not intellectual ineptitude. It's a different animal.

I am fat, but I know a lot about nutrition. It's not the knowing. It's the doing.

And people who criticize the fat this way probably have another area where they are disordered, ignorant, or otherwise weak. Cause we all do.

And someone who's never been morbidly obese cannot understand how 5,000 calories can still leave you feeling empty or dissatisfied. Their bodies don't malfunction in terms of appetite.

Maybe they need to :D

The Princess

ryry the adventurous said...

The Fat=Stupid Stereotype is monstrous. I had a job once where I was the most overweight person at a job I worked at once (and wasn't obese by any means) and it was very obvious that the CEO treated me differently because of it. So condescending... He would comment incessantly on things I was eating or ask about my "exercise regiment" and "kindly suggest things". So glad I left that job. What a DB he was. You are one of the most eloquent and awesome people I've met, no matter what weight you are. I know that you're worth a whole lot. :)

Heather said...

yeah I got that a lot when i was a lot heavier than I am now. and its sad that just because I have lost weight, people assume that suddenly I "get it" about food. I always did, but it didnt seem to matter before what I was eating. it wasnt that I was stupid.

I never really understand people who make comments like people are to you through email,etc. sure you have a public blog, but what is the point of being negative towards someone? its one thing to be supportive and be a devils advocate, but people should just shut up if they have nothing nice or constructive to say.

happyfunpants said...

Oh my gosh - your post made me SO mad. Seriously - we get enough grief from EVERYONE else in this world- why can't YOUR OWN F--ING blog be about you - for you?

Personally, I don't think the monthly budget would work for me - but guess what? The great thing about America is that I don't have to do it! I hope it works for you - I hope it helps you.

And I'm with niki - you could've completely used it as a trip to eat whatever you wanted. Even if when you were with skinny people at dinner, you could've hit the hotel shop or vending machines. BUT YOU DIDN'T.

Small steps - they're JUST as important.

Lyn - you keep doing whatever you want. Your focus is in the right place. And you know what? If it doesn't work, you should be able to write about that too. You should be able to have a soft place to land without people judging you on your own frickin' blog.

I like you - and your blog - unconditionally. I know that there are people just like you (including me) that are struggling and trying different things - something to shake stuff up, something to encourage us to just keep on going.

You're doing great - you're making better choices...and what's more, you're not giving up.

Way to go.

Hide those cookies said...

Unfortunately, I understand all too well that many people are laboring under the misconception that obese people are unintelligent. I'm with you. I KNOW what to do. I've educated myself in a variety of ways; it's just a matter of doing what I know I should.

For every person out there who feels the need to scold and tear you down there are three of us standing behind you who believe that ultimately only you can determine what's best for you. I appreciate that you are always honest, even though you know you'll get comments and emails like that.

Katschi said...

You had me at 'maladaptive' :)

Gigi said...

Lyn, I love this topic. So many helpers out there showing us poor darlings the way. If only we could be so enlightened. Still, I wouldn't shave a pound off this Ruebenesqe figure of mine if it meant the only way I could feel better about myself was to criticize someone else. My "Road to Hell" post was along similar lines - I must be in good company.

Diva Diana said...

Hi Lyn, First of all Thank you for your posts. I really enjoy reading them and I can so relate to you. I too suffer from people who assume i don't know what's good or bad food. I've been "policed" my entire life on what goes in my mouth. It's almost a game of bullying i think from people. Some people who commented on what i ate, are not the best examples of health either. Funny how many hyprocrites are out there. There is even people in my life that would tell me what not eat (a full lecture on health) then the next day, ask if i want to go out for ice cream or desert. (?) Go figure. Anyways, thanks so much. I love your blog and you are doing great.

Tony said...

God, I can relate so much to this post. I'm so tired of my family telling me how to eat right. I know how to eat right, it's implementation thats the challenge (as you said). It's silly how condescending people can be at times.

moonduster said...

Terrific post! I know when I was married to my first husband, the more he felt he needed to "shame" me into eating healthier or not eating something bad for me, the more I wanted to eat it just to spite him. (I started out skinny in that marriage and gained most of my weight during it. And I know exactly why!)

Thank goodness my current husband (perfect for me) is supportive and helpful and finds em attractive at any weight.

Fat Lazy Guy said...

Regarding the monthly calorie budget, I think it's a fantastic idea. Because that way, if you do go over your daily average, you have many chances to compensate, and don't have to feel like you completely ruined your diet.

I personally think of my calories in terms of weeks, with a daily average I like to keep to. If I mess up on one day, I can compensate, and my week isn't messed up.

MizFit said...

She is not stupid. She has an eating disorder

IMO it all boils down to this. and I applaud you for writing down all the chicago stuff because, while it was a weekend about heart health, they PLIED US WITH FOOD and not necessarily the best choices/options (Im thinking fri night cocktail hr and sat night :))

xo xo,


Vickie said...

It will be interesting to see what you have to say about this topic when you get to goal. I don't think you will disagree with what you have written here - but I do think you will have a LOT more to say on the subject.

I think there is a normal progression through the weight loss process (obviously, there is change with any experience) not only with what we eat and how we prepare it - but how we deal with our perceptions about everything.

There also (I think) is a definite change in what we eat. I can't give you a poundage and say "every 20, 40, 60 pounds" our food evolution changes greatly. But it is something generally like that.

To put this simply - if I ate the quality of food that I ate when starting this process - I would be gaining and not maintaining. If you flip this around - at some point in the past at a high weight, I could have eaten nearly anything - but if it had been in the right quantity and only at meal time - I would have lost weight on that food in the beginning.

As you may know - I DO see a eating disorder therapist. And I can't agree more that food is about what goes on in our feelings/dealing with feelings.

It is just like some one that turns to alcohol or gambling or overspending or over sexing or over whatevering - ours is just VERY public and VERY out there - because the aftermath of our addiction is FAT and not the secret balance in our bank statement or the like.

One of my all time favorite quotes is: "It's about the food, until it isn't about the food." Who said it originally - I have no idea but it says it all in a dozen nice little words.

Vickie said...

I watched the first episode of Ruby - I have a hard time with manipulation and enablers - was very hard to watch.

Vickie said...

And I can't tell you how often I hear people talk about the fact that they know they have an eating disorder and turn right around and say they are going to work with a nutritionist to solve their weight problem. This always seems like such a disconnect in my mind. If one has an eating disorder - sees it, owns it, believes it, knows it - then a nutritionist is probably only going to be effective used in conjunction WITH an eating disorder or addiction THERAPIST.

Diet books, plans, gym memberships, etc feel like band-aids to me - no matter how good the quality - if it is only a band-aid eventually it is going to loose it's adhesive and come off. . .

Vickie said...

Loved this posting. It brought out all kinds of thinking and feeling in me. As you can see from my comments. I am done now. Over and out from here.

PS - My word verification was "funback" - two real words!!!

Catie said...


I just started reading your blog. I just want to say thank you. Your writing captures me. You have given me new insight to start eating better and taking control of my life. You are an inspiration! It is scary how similar your stories are to mine. I now know I am not the only one who has problems with food and weight. I love this post. I hate the food police also. I probably know more about food/nutrition than most thin people, but my food addiction causes me to sway the other way. After all the diets, and books I have read, I should have a degree in weight loss:) I should use my degree and go do my JOB of losing weight. Thanks Again!

Teale said...

I heart you:)

Ms. Gigglepuss said...

Coming out of the dark lurking corner to comment.

Ding dong, you hit the right note! I hate how people just assume fat people don't know what to eat or how to move. Months ago, we had a health fair at work, and the man who went over my results (I wonder if he had a degree) asked me if I knew what an exercise band was, advised me to go for 15 minute walks instead of watching TV for hours, and that I needed to stop eating fried foods and eat green things. Did he bother to ask what my lifestyle was before assuming? Heck no!

Well anyways, I just wanted to say this is your blog and you have the right to try whatever you want and figure out what works! That's part of your journey and why we all read!

Scale Junkie said...

Great post! Can I just add: we aren't deaf either!

~TMcGee~ said...

I don't really have this happen to me, probably because I choose to isolate myself from a lot of people. Anyway, I am angry reading this post because I think it is incredibly rude for someone to email you like that, what nerve.
I know when we post on blogger, we are essentially opening our lives up to complete strangers. So, along with the great and wonderful, we are going to get a few "well meaning" comments/emails about how we are just doing it all wrong.
Kudos to you for making this post, it took guts. Obviously you have a ton of supporters (me being just one of them lol). Don't let this eat at you though, keep doing what is working for you.

Have a wonderful day,

Dinah Soar said...

Amen Lyn. Our weight has nothing to do with our intelligence. Just as the notion that people who live to be 100 or beyond have some secret. They don't. It's likely a combination of genetics and Providence--or for the atheist who doesn't believe im God...dumb luck. So many give themselves credit for everything as if their choices totally determine the outcome. As if they have total control over everything in their life. No one does.

Try as we may to be master of our fate, we are mostly subjected to--or you might even say a victim of--our circumstances to one degree or another. Granted, there are some things we can change. But often changing those things creates even bigger problems for us--so we weigh the consequences and choose according to our own personal judgement--which evolves and is shaped by our beliefs, our experiences, our relationships and just life in general.

To those who think they've arrived when it comes to weight loss and fitness I say "you just wait". Given enough time you'll find out you don't have all the answers and you'd better be careful if you're going to sit in judgement on others.

"Pride goeth before a fall and a haughty spirit before destruction." You can put that in the bank.

limeberry said...

Absolutely wonderful blog. Thank you.

Carol said...

Great post! I just discovered your blog and look forward to following your continued success.

For me, and I suspect many others, something I struggle with is once I do over eat, getting "back on the wagon" and trying to mitigate damages by reducing my calories in the next meals or days. I think it's very common to throw in the towel and continue to binge, or over eat, instead of limiting it to just one "episode". Anyway, if you are able to stick within the monthly calorie allowance, this would be a valuable tool for maitenance as well. Perhaps even the most critical thing to master! It's a skill we often don't learn while we're losing the weight and I think that's why it's so easy for us to pile the pounds back on.

I have been at my goal weight for almost a year now and this is one of the things I continue to struggle with. I have accepted that I'm not going to be perfect in my eating, and over my lifetime will revert back to old habits now and again, but I think my success will be determined with how I react to those "falls". So I think (not that you need my validation) that your monthly system may allow for flexibility and accountibility, providing you "balance out to a zero balance" at the end of the month. So I'd be real interrested in hearing how this works out for you, as well as your thoughts on picking a monthly total as opposed to a weekly or 2-week total. (For me personally, I don't think I could trust myself with a month.)

Perhaps what you are doing is what people who don't struggle with weight problems just "naturally" do. Balance out the heavy days with lighter days as opposed to constantly being "restricted".

Anyway, I think it's good to examine what we consider the "right way" to think about things and consider that perhaps there is another way. Because in the end, we discover something that is a good fit for our own life. Anyway, best of luck to you!!

Karyn said...

The thing is, I'll bet I know far more about nutrition than your average thin person. And I've been obese forever. I was overweight before that.

I could TEACH principles of weight loss - in fact, I did, for awhile.

You hit the nail on the head when you described what most of us mean by "I don't know how".

We don't know how to find the "key"...that elusive motivation, the stay-with-it determination, the believing in yourself, the self-love necessary. I've heard/read so many people say "something just clicked". That is my story, too.

While I don't think I could work with a monthly calorie budget, I applaud your inovation - I hope it continues to work for you! If it doesn't, I am sure you will come up with a plan that does.

Also, I admire the way you deal with the negative emails and such...address them head on, publicly on your blog. I doubt it will deter most of them, but at least it exposes the fact that they say some pretty insensitive and stupid things.

Anne said...

Love how your write - so much thought has gone into yur entries. Going to take some time and go back over past entries. I started my blog to encourage others in my age group, now I'm finding it's encouraging me to keep on going, it really is a never ending journey!

Pubsgal said...

I work in high tech, among some of the best and brightest. Not everyone has a BMI below 30, that's for sure, self included.

There is no one-size-fits-all answer. I think it's terrific that you're trying different ideas, Lyn. (I also like hearing the fight and determination again! You go, girl! :-)

Carol said...

I don't know if you've discussed this before but I'm a big believer in The Beck Diet Solution. It isn't a diet book telling you what to eat, but rather it's a book that tells you HOW to think and how to change your thinking about food and eating. It's an easy read too. It made a huge difference to me and I recommend it for anyone looking for the answer to the question of where they can find what it takes to make the life change.

Olivia said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I felt like a celebrity visited my house. :D

This post is so flippin' dead on. We seem to have tolerance for every disability, race, monetary background, sexual preference and gender but for some reason "fat" is still a free for all. If your fat your; stupid, lazy, dirty, creepy..... you name it. Even worse than the names, "helpful" advice and condescension is when you are invisible. That's sucks the most.

Don't worry folks! We are changing the perception one close minded fool at a time. :D

Olivia said...

Great! I leave a post about not being stupid and I put YOUR instead of YOU'RE. Duh! :D

Sheri said...

What? You mean that drive-thru super-sized double burger meal isn’t good for me? Who knew? I thought it was the calorie-wisest option on the menu board!” … Kidding for course, but that’s the response I want to give a lot of people who seem to think I don’t have a clue. Actually they don’t have a clue, just assumptions. After all, I may have eaten what I know I shouldn’t have for reasons I cannot decipher (if they want to tell me anything, give me those reasons!), but I am already beating myself up enough without judgmental input. People are always quick to correct others, but often lack in support and helping someone figure out the why’s!

Kudo’s to you Lyn for doing your best in Chicago with your choices. Rest assured, I will never judge you, my heart may ache for you from time to time, because I understand that binges are often attributed to something we’re going through. When that happens it is my hope you get past it quickly. I am always here to support and help you, just an e-mail away, because I relate and understand so much of what you are saying. In the case of the ‘don’t know how,’ I believe what we really mean to say is, “I don’t know why I just can’t find (or keep) the motivation I need to do what needs to be done to lose weight.”

Glad to know today has been one of the good days!

Sheri said...

BTW Lyn just went to send you an e-mail. I lost your e-mail address. Send me a message so I can add you to my contacts please.

Janet said...

Hello, Lyn!

I have been following your Blog for a while now (and so identify with your journey and struggles) and wanted to share with you a book my medical nutritionist suggested I read that has pretty much changed my life!

Please don't think I'm preaching - I just think you're worth sharing this information with! The book is called: "Eating by the Light of the moon" by Anita Johnson, Ph.D. This is NOT a diet book, and it SO spoke to me in ways I believe it will speak to you too.

You can learn more (and see video) at:

Again, I am only sharing this with you out of support (and thanks for all you share with us!)

Janet said...

Amen, Sister!!

Speak truth to power!

Anonymous said...

This is so completely true. Fat people are dumb and they don't deserve respect or consideration, is the school of thought that a lot of people subscribe to. That is so sad, because I am quite intelligent (had a full ride merit scholarship to a private university), as are many of the other people I know who also happen to be overweight. Just because you have head knowledge does not mean that you always make intelligent decisions...

Angie said...

I totally relate to what you are saying. I actually think fat people know MORE about health and nutrition than anyone! I've read all books, talked to experts etc..

I am not stupid!

Pamela said...

I just wanted to say that I absolutely love this post and agree with you 210%.

Katy said...

There was a TV documentary about dieting and weight loss a few years ago in the UK, presented by Victoria Wood. At one point she said something that really sums it up for me: "what's the point of knowing how many calories there are in a Curly Wurly if you can still eat seven on a bad day?" That's what a lot of people don't get - knowledge is not always power. Not willpower, anyway. said...

You said it, sister! This is one of my pet peeves. I probably qualify for an honorary PhD in nutrition, but knowledge alone never helped. I needed awareness, acceptance, and action.

Oh, and here's a clue to people who feel compelled to offer unhelpful comments like that -- shaming has the opposite effect. Duh.

Wow, I'm FUMING. Grr!

Lyn said...


That book looks fascinating. I ordered it on amazon. Thanks!

Andra said...

When we first moved to Georgia we had to find a primary care doctor. One day this doctor told me that I need to lose weight and that I should stop eating fried food and cake. Being a fat food addict for many years, you can bet your bottom dollar that I know more about food, dieting and nutrition than this doctor. And I told her so before firing her. Fat ain't stupid. Thank you so much for this post.

Mary said...

Not sure if anyone is still checking the comment thread, but I recently read an article that pertains to some of the comments made. Specifically, about why knowing what to do does not always translate into doing it. I found it very interesting!

Great blog, BTW, just found it today!

Lyn said...

Thanks, Mary, very interesting article :)