Sunday, July 27, 2008

One Perfect Day

Have you ever wished you could be perfect in something? Maybe you have said to yourself, "if only I could eat EXACTLY the right things, and exercise, and drink enough water, and not eat junk, and follow my plan perfectly, then I would lose weight and I would be soooo happy." I often hear folks lamenting that they are always "screwing up" their "diets" and can't lose weight. It's like we are either "off" or "on." Black or white. No in-betweens. No grey areas.

It is so hard to keep on going when you feel like a failure. You get up and eat your healthy breakfast, with high aspirations and all the right intentions. But then that pizza calls to you. You eat a slice. And how do you feel? DEFEATED. Your brain yells, "I am a failure! I can't even stay on this diet for ONE DAY! What is wrong with me? I will never lose weight." Then you go and eat a ton of junk. Right?

You do not have to be perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. You can lose weight and have a good day even if you ate a piece of pizza, if you stop it right there. It's the not stopping... the rampage that follows... that keeps us fat.

None of us can do everything right, but every one of us can stop ourselves from rolling head over heels down the fat hill into the obesity abyss. It's hard, sometimes, not to just fall in and give up, sitting there in the muddy darkness, quietly inhaling Little Debbies cakes and Pringles. It's a lonely pit. You don't want to be there. So let's start by putting on the brakes right now, no matter where you are emotionally or how far you have already come with your weight loss... or how much you have regained. We have a long journey ahead, and it starts with a single step. You may have a hundred pounds to lose but it starts with a one-pound loss. That is how success begins: with one step, one pound, one day.

I challenge each of you to have one perfect day. A day in which you meet all of your weight-loss goals and do nothing that derails you from the plan. Maybe for you that means not going over 30 Weight Watcher points and doing a 15 minute aerobics tape. For someone else it might mean not eating any sugar, drinking 8 cups of water, and walking for 10 minutes. For me, it means eating less than 1500 calories, drinking 10 cups of water, riding my bike for 30 minutes, and lifting weights for 15 minutes. It's not that hard to have ONE perfect day. I know you can do it. Will you?

"But what good is ONE day?" you whine. "I won't lose any weight in ONE day! I am so fat it will take YEARS to get to a normal weight. Why should I even bother with ONE dumb perfect day when I know I will just mess up later?" Well let me tell you.

One perfect day, you can do. And if you can do it once, you can do it again. Don't think about the other days. It is ONE day. You only have to do it for ONE day. Then at the end of your perfect day, hug yourself, go to bed, and get back up in the morning committed to doing ONE perfect day. Again.

One day leads to another. Like the momentum of footsteps taking you to a goal, the days carry you forward. They are going to carry you, regardless. In a month you will be a month older. Will you be a month heavier? More miserable? Or will you be a month lighter and happier? Because believe me, the good days string together and create something more masterful and wonderful than weeks and months. They create joy. They become peace and clarity. They lead to a new you.

Let's do it. One perfect day. Let your path begin today.

20 comments:

Twix said...

Oooo that feels good! I think we're on the same wave length, lol! :)

Jim said...

Those are great suggestions! And I'm one of those folks who have a tendency to let one slip-up put me on a path toward a binge that lasts all day ... or several days. I'm trying to break that bad habit.

just janene said...

Hi Lyn,

I'm new to your blog, but I have to say that yours is one of the most inspiring and motivating that I've read in a long long time.

And for that I have to say thank you.

Janene

Ceres said...

Losing weight teaches you so many life lessons, doesn't it? One of the most important is: don't give up if you're any less than perfect in your opinion. Keep trying, give it your best shot. The best you can do is good enough, and even if it takes time, the results of your effort will show eventually! And you're worth it! Great post, Lyn, thanks :-) I'm going for my perfect day starting now!

Joan said...

Like Ceres said, what counts even more than perfection is persistence.

Anonymous said...

Hi again, It's Lisa, the lady with the 'questions'. I was reading back over your last three posts, enjoying them all and nodding my head to all the truth strewn through them when it hit me about your children. One of the best things about what you've accomplished is that there will be five people in the world who are not only watching your every move and will model themselves after your courage, they have a mother who can tell them not only to go for their goals but how to realistically achieve them. Bravo and well done! This blog is a huge inspiration on many levels.

L

groovybabe said...

great attitude to have, it is this way of thinking that helped me to lose 70lbs so I can tell you it does work!!

Linda said...

I quoted you in my spark group's daily chat. I love what you said about one day at a time. Thank you so much.

spunkysuzi said...

I'm going for the one good day today ;) So far so good!!

HollyALP said...

I looooooved that post! I have been really struggling to get through the parts of weight loss that have always hung me up in the past. The great news is that I'm doing it!... just not all at once. I probably didn't lose weight this week, but I also didn't go crazy jumping off the binging edge. I think your post was just what I needed to read to get me going again. And I can do Just One Day. Thank you!

ryry the adventurous said...

Today I am writing you a haiku.

Awesome lady Lyn
Sixty plus pounds washed away
She is just gorgeous

You inspire me every day!

Arachne said...

Once again, Lyn, you're exactly what I needed. Thank you, thank you for this blog. I have been dragging lately. I think I am burning out. I kept thinking over and over and over again today at the gym - how am I going to do this. How am I going to keep this up. One day at a time. That's how. 18 weeks ago I weighed 260 pounds. Today, I weighed 180. I'll never give in, I'll never give up. One day at at time. Thank you, again, Lyn, for being there. Peace.

Honi said...

wonderful suggestions i started logging my food againt today..

new*me said...

great advice. So many have told me one day at a time, but it really is just that. We can only take care of our bodies one day at at time..........pounds don't mysteriously fall off over night. I am at the 3 month point into the plan and felt the pull in the wrong direction this weekend. I could have easily slipped up for good and went back to that dark pit again but here I am on Monday eating healthy and working out. I will succeed! You could be a great motivational speaker. I come here daily for my motivation :) Thanks! I SO needed it today

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the challenge Lyn, I read your blog in the morning and did have an on-plan day yesterday! Today I will another.
Schmoodle

Heather said...

I'll join the quest for "One Perfect Day" on my plan. And if I succeed, the next day, I'll try for another perfect day. And so on. When you blog, it's like you are so inside my head. And that helps make this journey seem less lonely.

Katschi said...

Today will be my second perfect day & it feels good to wake up without guilt and a sinking feeling that I let myself down again.

Heather said...

great post! I learned a long time ago that no one is perfect and sure, while those days do happen, whats more important is not feeling guilt because one cannot be perfect. because mistakes to happen..that is life and LIFE always gets in the way and happens and you just have to deal with it.

Anonymous said...

Lyn...End of August, 2009, and this blooby, middle aged woman in the UK is holding back the tears as she writes to you.

I don't think I have ever read a more motivating post. Thank you.

I feel trapped in this big flabby body, the one I have created and I feel so down about it that I cannot kick start myself into action.

However, today I am going to try to have a perfect one - I really am. Today I'll try to improve my situation with more determination than I've had for a long time.

Being fat makes me a nobody..and because I am a nobody these days, who cares what I look like. I know I am miserable, and I know that my misery makes me lazy and defeatist. I sit and wallow and biscuits and tea comfort me, all day. I even escape to cyber worlds on my computer. It's safe sitting and reading, allowing my backside to spread and the rolls of fat around my middle to grow, but when I have posted this, I am going to start my one perfect day...

Lyn, thank you so much for hitting the spot...I don't love myself much any more, but my life isn't over. I hope I'll love myself a little bit more tonight because I am taking one step, today, to lose perhaps one pound of flab...a few ounces of flab...

What I really need is for my brain to believe in me, and to feel strong enough to do this. Lyn, this morning I have your words pushing me gently forward. Only the fat and self-hating know the despair that keeps us down.

I am going to blow my nose now and dry my eyes..and that means I have to get up to find the tissues.

Just one day x x x

Lyn said...

Anonymous~

*I* believe in you! You CAN do this. Life is so precious, we really can't afford to waste it in misery. I am proud of oyu for WANTING it. I hope you'll drop me and email and let me know how you're doing. Big hugs!